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Does any one with ASD see it as a burden or a gift . I have always known am different but not in a bad way . Always felt that I was looking in the world then being part of it . Always thought I lived my life through others life’s and not concentrated on my own life . Always making comments others wouldn’t 

  • Both, I suppose, but the negatives outweigh the positives. I think it has helped me go very far in my career but it has also left me completely alone in the world. I'd happily trade the career success for a family and friends.

  • I don't see it as being either.  Frustrating? Very much so. In a 'you can't be x if y'/ 'can't be y if x' kind of way'.

  • in reply to Mr T

    "Gift" is the German word for poison...

  • Never having been any different, it is what it is. My lifes had successes and failures, just like everyones. There are some things that seem to be ASC based and for me only child based, I am an observer of life and people, then I have to go away and think about things and be in my own space for a bit.

    If I say the right thing then others see me as incredibly wise and insightful, if I say the wrong thing then I'm all kinds of bad and insensitive.

  • It has been both to me, though overcoming, or at least coping with, the problems my autism brings have made me a resilient person. The things about autism that have helped me are: the ability to concentrate obsessively for long periods of time, my exceptional eye for detail and an ability to solve problems from non-standard directions (lateral thinking). As I was, I'm now retired, a biomedical researcher, these 'gifts' were invaluable. I wrote two theses, masters and PhD, which were passed without revision or correction, a relatively unusual occurrence. I became the 'go to' person for proofreading PhD theses in my department (occasionally from other departments), though I did demand a bottle of wine as payment. I have lost count of the number I have proofread.

  • It's both. There are good things like higher levels of perception and attention to detail, and bad things like struggling with friendships.

    Autistic and neurotypical strengths are both needed in human society, for example to see both the details and the big picture. 

  • It6 has defo been a burden over my 50 plus years. There have been good times and lots of not good at all times. However, I am now beginning to accept and see my autism as a gift. Just have not figured out what kind of gift.