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becca

Hi I’m Becca, I’m 17 and have been out of school for 3 years due to my mental health. I was diagnosed in 2022 and it really gave me a new perspective on myself. I am now it so much of a better place, I even tried to join sixth form in September, because I felt ready to be sociable and make friends. Sadly the people at the school were too quiet and I hated the stress and work, so I only lasted three days. But I’m still lonely and desperate to talk to someone. I love tv and films, especially comedies. I love going for walks, I live in London so just love wondering around the city. I like baking, shopping and childcare. I have a couple of small childcare jobs which give me a bit of socialization but I need more and I need people more my age. It feels impossible to meet people as everyone’s either at school or not, and not wanting to. I’ve been lonely for years now and I can’t keep living like this, cos I think I’m kind of social it’s just hidden by anxiety. Anyways if anyone is lonely and looking for someone to talk to I’m here.

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  • Hi Becca, I remember quite clearly having a very autistic conversation with someone while at primary school insisting that even though I was a boy, I was exactly the same as a girl in terms of conversation and I didn't know why boys and girls made such a big deal about talking to someone with a different gender.

    But many years later following diagnosis - I'm still unsure about why this is the case, however I am schooled enough in the lives of humans that many do still hold this view.

    If you wanted to speak to me, I am ALWYS very happy to chat and help where I can.

    I live in a super dull, super boring part of Northern England and would LOVE to be able to wander the streets of London just taking stuff in.  

    Do you feel lucky or is this just what life is?

    Perhaps you can challenge some of my assumptions here, but I would have thought that having access to London would mean you'd be able to take advantage of a wealth of social groups or facilities for autistic people?

    Is there many social groups etc for Autistic people?

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  • Hi Becca, I remember quite clearly having a very autistic conversation with someone while at primary school insisting that even though I was a boy, I was exactly the same as a girl in terms of conversation and I didn't know why boys and girls made such a big deal about talking to someone with a different gender.

    But many years later following diagnosis - I'm still unsure about why this is the case, however I am schooled enough in the lives of humans that many do still hold this view.

    If you wanted to speak to me, I am ALWYS very happy to chat and help where I can.

    I live in a super dull, super boring part of Northern England and would LOVE to be able to wander the streets of London just taking stuff in.  

    Do you feel lucky or is this just what life is?

    Perhaps you can challenge some of my assumptions here, but I would have thought that having access to London would mean you'd be able to take advantage of a wealth of social groups or facilities for autistic people?

    Is there many social groups etc for Autistic people?

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  • in reply to IntruderAlarmAbatis

    Hi, thanks for replying. I constantly feel very lucky to live in London, but don’t take advantage of it as much as i’d like. Surprisingly there aren’t as many groups of facilities as you’d expect, but i have gone to one tiny group with two other autistic girls set up by my local autism service. It was a good thing to do but didn’t really help me, and that is all i have been able to access. My mum and i have done lots of research over the last few years, not just for autistic people, but also for homeschooled teens and more, and there is nothing. It’s such a shame. But i know im luckier than those living in smaller areas. 

    How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? Have you ever been able to find groups or alike?