Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi
I was late diagnosed with ASD after my son was diagnosed and my dad when reading the papers remarked it was like he was reading about me
since then a few things have really rattled me
one
I seem to no longer be able to function in situations I could before for instance I find crowds to much to the point I’ve stoped going to football and wrestling yes before I was anxious but I seem to of lost my ability to cope with it
secondly my wife says she thinks due to my past experiences with the diagnosis process with my son and with people I work with (TA in SEMH) I knew what to say to get a diagnosis this has really affected me and made me question do I deserve a diagnosis or have I subconsciously faked it
please help
NAS95639 said:my wife says she thinks due to my past experiences with the diagnosis process with my son and with people I work with (TA in SEMH) I knew what to say to get a diagnosis
That is very dissapointing to hear.
Does she realise that autism is prodominantly hereditary? This means your son inherited it from you most likely (since you were diagnosed) so your diagnosis was entirely appropriate.
I have a similar issue with my wife trying to minimise my autism because I have been so successful at masking in the past - she thinks that because I am unmasking now and acting differently that now is all fake and the previous masked me was the real me.
It is willful ignorance I'm afraid. Some people have problems in accepting that their partner is not what they grew to know so well.
If I were in your shoes I would get a therapist who is well versed in treating autistic patients and work through your issues with them and accept your wifes failings - she is human so is fallible. Accept her weaknesses as you hope she would accept yours.