Hi, I'm new and I didn't know where to turn. I'm really hoping that you can help. I'm a grandmother to a 5 year old boy with ASD (let's call him Cady). His parents share split custody on a weekly basis. He was diagnosed two years ago, he doesn't like change and has abandonment issues.
A bit of background, Cady doesn't eat anything at all, his only form of sustenance is milk, which has to be vanilla flavored, which he still drinks from a bottle. He started seeing an OT right after the diagnosis to help with non-eating and two later, we have made no headway. He is still wearing diapers as well. We have had no help with issues that has arisen from the OT. I would like a different OT and school but not my decision.
The shared custody works well for us, as we get to see Cady every second week instead of every second weekend. The problem we are facing is that when he's with us, he doesn't want to go to school. When he's with his mother, he has no problem attending and goes everyday. He starts crying uncontrollably when we dress him and we have a difficult time to calm him down. When this first started, we notified the school and the OT and the advice that was given, let him cry and force him into the car. According to them, he is manipulating us. We did that and he cried all the way to school and refused to get out of the car. I don't believe that he's manipulating us. It is also a battle for him to with his mother when she collects him, he refuses to go with her.
I know I'm all over the place, please forgive me
