need help with accepting daughters have autism

I posted the following on the Newly Diagnosed Autistic Child thread, maybe it will help you too boozy:

Maybe this will make you feel better, it's something I saw on another forum:

"On Saturday I went to the “New Look at Autism” talk at the beautiful Sheepdrove Eco Centre in Berkshire, UK. Among the speakers was Rupert Isaacson, author of the wonderful book “The Horse Boy” http://www.horseboyfoundation.org/book-film/the-book/about-the-book.html.  The Horse Boy is a story of how the father of an autistic boy takes his son all the way to see the shaman of the Raindeer Tribe in Mongolia in the hope that his son may be “healed.” Rupert had long recognised the benefits of shamanic healing (yay!) and he had also seen how well his son Rowan responded to his neighbour’s horse, Betsy. Much of the trip was made on horseback, which is massive feat considering that even taking his son to the supermarket had become a nightmare for Rupert and his wife. Rupert said that in his opinion, clues to an autistic child’s gifts could be found in their “stimming” – the repetitive physical movements that autistic children often make (stimming is short for “self stimulation”).

For example, Rupert had a child on one of his Horse Boy camps who flatly refused to get on a horse; instead he just wanted to play with the water in a pond. Rupert allowed this and some clever soul watched over the child. The boy appeared to be slapping the water, gathering it up somehow, then letting it go, then he would fling his arms up into the air, only to then go back to rapidly scooping up water. He constantly repeated this process. To the onlooker, it looked like madness. But the man that was watching over this child took photos, and amazingly, the photos actually captured images of water sculptures that the child was making. He was actually shaping the water into images – of dolphins and horses for example, and when he created a pleasing image, he would fling his arms back in happiness, then he repeated the process all over again.

Rather than seeing autistic children as damaged and in need of healing, Rupert believes they are very special, so special in fact that he calls them “Dreamweavers,” as Rowan’s condition led Rupert to achieve many of his dreams. Rupert’s views on stimming are that they are a method of creation, which are intentional. Either they clear energy – for example shaking hands around the middle clear energy channels within the child’s energy body, or they create a vibrational resonance, an energy, that is needed for some reason. Therefore, when a child arranges, say, sticks in a particular pattern, they are creating an energetic frequency, which either they themselves, their parents or the world at large needs for some reason. Rupert said that autistic children have a greater link to spirit than non-autistic children, and in fact most have shamanic tendencies. Rowan is obsessed with animals, particularly endangered species for example.

We heard a story from another speaker, Suzy Miller, (author of the book Awesomism http://www.awesomism.net/), about a little girl who loved collecting anything to do with birds, and then was seen in front of a hedge at school talking to a hummingbird which was hovering right in front of her – for enough time as it took the whole playground to gather around her. Rather than damaged, Rupert asked us to perceive autistic children as unique, special and beautiful, and to understand that they have often come to heal their parents – and quite possibly the world, rather than needing healing themselves. One of the struggles Rupert had with Rowan was his physical incontinence. Until his meeting with the shaman, Rowan regularly soiled himself, which put his parents under huge strain and worry. My sense is that he had such problems as he was largely unaware he even had a body that defecated. Because autistic kids are more spiritually aware and are concerned with the bigger picture, going to the toilet is something that just does not appear on their radar. For spirits, as we know, do not have bodies, and do not have to cope with bodily things. This view was met by Suzy Miller who refused to call children autistic, instead referring to them as “children diagnosed with autism.” She believed that such children only incarnated into their bodies as far as their hearts. (A professor of psychology told me recently that it takes even “normal” children up to age seven to fully incarnate into their bodies). So an autistic child does not even fully inhabit their body!

Suzy was an amazing lady who had developed a psychic link to the autistic non-verbal children she often worked with in her role as a speech therapist. One child in particular, a four year old, taught her telepathically how to heal him - and other children! She asked him why so many autistic children were coming in now and was told by this tiny tot that they were coming in answer to our request for a new type of human, as we had done quite a good job of stuffing the world up ourselves. How amazing is that?? She backed up Rupert’s suggestion that parents of autistic children should pay close attention to the things that their children do. For example she told us one boy, Tommy, played music over and over, driving his parents almost mad. One day his mother realised that there were messages to her in the music he was playing, answers in the songs to her own questions! Tommy now has his own Facebook page and in return for your details will provide you with a song which will speak to your heart. How beautiful is that? If you are a parent with an autistic child then I strongly recommend both the books mentioned above."

I posted the following on the Newly Diagnosed Autistic Child thread, maybe it will help you too boozy:

Maybe this will make you feel better, it's something I saw on another forum:

"On Saturday I went to the “New Look at Autism” talk at the beautiful Sheepdrove Eco Centre in Berkshire, UK. Among the speakers was Rupert Isaacson, author of the wonderful book “The Horse Boy” http://www.horseboyfoundation.org/book-film/the-book/about-the-book.html.  The Horse Boy is a story of how the father of an autistic boy takes his son all the way to see the shaman of the Raindeer Tribe in Mongolia in the hope that his son may be “healed.” Rupert had long recognised the benefits of shamanic healing (yay!) and he had also seen how well his son Rowan responded to his neighbour’s horse, Betsy. Much of the trip was made on horseback, which is massive feat considering that even taking his son to the supermarket had become a nightmare for Rupert and his wife. Rupert said that in his opinion, clues to an autistic child’s gifts could be found in their “stimming” – the repetitive physical movements that autistic children often make (stimming is short for “self stimulation”).

For example, Rupert had a child on one of his Horse Boy camps who flatly refused to get on a horse; instead he just wanted to play with the water in a pond. Rupert allowed this and some clever soul watched over the child. The boy appeared to be slapping the water, gathering it up somehow, then letting it go, then he would fling his arms up into the air, only to then go back to rapidly scooping up water. He constantly repeated this process. To the onlooker, it looked like madness. But the man that was watching over this child took photos, and amazingly, the photos actually captured images of water sculptures that the child was making. He was actually shaping the water into images – of dolphins and horses for example, and when he created a pleasing image, he would fling his arms back in happiness, then he repeated the process all over again.

Rather than seeing autistic children as damaged and in need of healing, Rupert believes they are very special, so special in fact that he calls them “Dreamweavers,” as Rowan’s condition led Rupert to achieve many of his dreams. Rupert’s views on stimming are that they are a method of creation, which are intentional. Either they clear energy – for example shaking hands around the middle clear energy channels within the child’s energy body, or they create a vibrational resonance, an energy, that is needed for some reason. Therefore, when a child arranges, say, sticks in a particular pattern, they are creating an energetic frequency, which either they themselves, their parents or the world at large needs for some reason. Rupert said that autistic children have a greater link to spirit than non-autistic children, and in fact most have shamanic tendencies. Rowan is obsessed with animals, particularly endangered species for example.

We heard a story from another speaker, Suzy Miller, (author of the book Awesomism http://www.awesomism.net/), about a little girl who loved collecting anything to do with birds, and then was seen in front of a hedge at school talking to a hummingbird which was hovering right in front of her – for enough time as it took the whole playground to gather around her. Rather than damaged, Rupert asked us to perceive autistic children as unique, special and beautiful, and to understand that they have often come to heal their parents – and quite possibly the world, rather than needing healing themselves. One of the struggles Rupert had with Rowan was his physical incontinence. Until his meeting with the shaman, Rowan regularly soiled himself, which put his parents under huge strain and worry. My sense is that he had such problems as he was largely unaware he even had a body that defecated. Because autistic kids are more spiritually aware and are concerned with the bigger picture, going to the toilet is something that just does not appear on their radar. For spirits, as we know, do not have bodies, and do not have to cope with bodily things. This view was met by Suzy Miller who refused to call children autistic, instead referring to them as “children diagnosed with autism.” She believed that such children only incarnated into their bodies as far as their hearts. (A professor of psychology told me recently that it takes even “normal” children up to age seven to fully incarnate into their bodies). So an autistic child does not even fully inhabit their body!

Suzy was an amazing lady who had developed a psychic link to the autistic non-verbal children she often worked with in her role as a speech therapist. One child in particular, a four year old, taught her telepathically how to heal him - and other children! She asked him why so many autistic children were coming in now and was told by this tiny tot that they were coming in answer to our request for a new type of human, as we had done quite a good job of stuffing the world up ourselves. How amazing is that?? She backed up Rupert’s suggestion that parents of autistic children should pay close attention to the things that their children do. For example she told us one boy, Tommy, played music over and over, driving his parents almost mad. One day his mother realised that there were messages to her in the music he was playing, answers in the songs to her own questions! Tommy now has his own Facebook page and in return for your details will provide you with a song which will speak to your heart. How beautiful is that? If you are a parent with an autistic child then I strongly recommend both the books mentioned above."