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need help with accepting daughters have autism

boozy

i have 2 daughters 5 (diagnosed autism and LD's) in special school with statement and 14 (High Functioning Autism) in mainstream school on school action plus. I have only recently been up front and honest in saying to my family that i am struggling to accept the autism i've always been in denial. Every time they act say or do weird things it makes me cringe feel embarrased and i just want to run in the opposite direction. i feel shame and guilt at saying such things but i have to be honest. i am currently on anti depressants and awaiting psycholgical assistance. can anyone help me accept them for who they are i'm desparate as it's affecting all our lives.

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  • Hello.

    I used to struggle with depression/anixety etc very badly.
    I can understand how it can be hard accepting things do not seem normal to you.
    And to me personaly sounds like you need some inner peace.
    And I encourge you to question the rest of my answer as much as possible.

    I believe that buddism is and will continue to change my life.
    It teaches us to let go of the little things and accept everything and everyone for exsactly who they are. When our mind is calmer, we let go of the past dont woe on for the future think in the now, think about this moment. How are you now. Not good?
    Take time to sit and breathe but on some calming music shut your else and think of nothing else. Ensure your personal needs are met.  

    1.certainty - security

    2. Variety - doing different things

    3.Love/ Connection - the coneection between your and your family is there (doesnt matter how)

    4. Your personal significance - accept who you and your family are

    6. Your personal Growth - Challenge yourself work on something

    "relax nothing is under control"

    "We are not here to change the world, The world is here to change us"

    "I can and I will"

    Once you let go of exspectations and comparison you could be happier.
    If it makes sense look it up. If it sounds like rubbish disregard it.

    I hope you find some peace

    xxxx 

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  • Hello.

    I used to struggle with depression/anixety etc very badly.
    I can understand how it can be hard accepting things do not seem normal to you.
    And to me personaly sounds like you need some inner peace.
    And I encourge you to question the rest of my answer as much as possible.

    I believe that buddism is and will continue to change my life.
    It teaches us to let go of the little things and accept everything and everyone for exsactly who they are. When our mind is calmer, we let go of the past dont woe on for the future think in the now, think about this moment. How are you now. Not good?
    Take time to sit and breathe but on some calming music shut your else and think of nothing else. Ensure your personal needs are met.  

    1.certainty - security

    2. Variety - doing different things

    3.Love/ Connection - the coneection between your and your family is there (doesnt matter how)

    4. Your personal significance - accept who you and your family are

    6. Your personal Growth - Challenge yourself work on something

    "relax nothing is under control"

    "We are not here to change the world, The world is here to change us"

    "I can and I will"

    Once you let go of exspectations and comparison you could be happier.
    If it makes sense look it up. If it sounds like rubbish disregard it.

    I hope you find some peace

    xxxx 

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