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need help with accepting daughters have autism

boozy

i have 2 daughters 5 (diagnosed autism and LD's) in special school with statement and 14 (High Functioning Autism) in mainstream school on school action plus. I have only recently been up front and honest in saying to my family that i am struggling to accept the autism i've always been in denial. Every time they act say or do weird things it makes me cringe feel embarrased and i just want to run in the opposite direction. i feel shame and guilt at saying such things but i have to be honest. i am currently on anti depressants and awaiting psycholgical assistance. can anyone help me accept them for who they are i'm desparate as it's affecting all our lives.

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  • Hi - I think that the attitudes of others (non autistic) makes things much more difficult.  You need to accept your situation as it is when it comes to other people + their attitudes, otherwise you'll go round in circles getting regularly upset + your children need your support.  What's really important, pleasing others?  As other posters have said, it wd be a gd idea to meet other parents with autistic children + have someone to discuss things with, such as a councillor.  It's not easy, society isn't autism-friendly or even understanding.  In the end we can care too much about what others think but what's more important?  Good luck with everything + if you think you may be autistic then there are online questionnaires you can complete which give some sort of indication, if you want to pursue it further.  We do understand how hard it can be for our children + ourselves + do empathise.

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  • Hi - I think that the attitudes of others (non autistic) makes things much more difficult.  You need to accept your situation as it is when it comes to other people + their attitudes, otherwise you'll go round in circles getting regularly upset + your children need your support.  What's really important, pleasing others?  As other posters have said, it wd be a gd idea to meet other parents with autistic children + have someone to discuss things with, such as a councillor.  It's not easy, society isn't autism-friendly or even understanding.  In the end we can care too much about what others think but what's more important?  Good luck with everything + if you think you may be autistic then there are online questionnaires you can complete which give some sort of indication, if you want to pursue it further.  We do understand how hard it can be for our children + ourselves + do empathise.

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