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need help with accepting daughters have autism

boozy

i have 2 daughters 5 (diagnosed autism and LD's) in special school with statement and 14 (High Functioning Autism) in mainstream school on school action plus. I have only recently been up front and honest in saying to my family that i am struggling to accept the autism i've always been in denial. Every time they act say or do weird things it makes me cringe feel embarrased and i just want to run in the opposite direction. i feel shame and guilt at saying such things but i have to be honest. i am currently on anti depressants and awaiting psycholgical assistance. can anyone help me accept them for who they are i'm desparate as it's affecting all our lives.

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  • Hi there can I ask how long your daughters have been diagnosed for? My daughter is 8 and she was diagnosed about 2years ago, I know exactly what you mean by saying they way they act makes you feel shame and guilt but I think that's only natural and ive felt the same myself at times .

    But think for me the thing that made me feel better about things was that my daughter is one of a kind she only acts the way she does because she sees the world differently and she trying to make sense of it, and I have to say I think the reason I did feel like you do is because I was in denial that she was autistic , but i have to say once you start to accept it things get a lot easier , I hope this helps I certainly dont have all the answers and it's a long road but I honestly wouldn't change my daughter now it's who she is . Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself .

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  • Hi there can I ask how long your daughters have been diagnosed for? My daughter is 8 and she was diagnosed about 2years ago, I know exactly what you mean by saying they way they act makes you feel shame and guilt but I think that's only natural and ive felt the same myself at times .

    But think for me the thing that made me feel better about things was that my daughter is one of a kind she only acts the way she does because she sees the world differently and she trying to make sense of it, and I have to say I think the reason I did feel like you do is because I was in denial that she was autistic , but i have to say once you start to accept it things get a lot easier , I hope this helps I certainly dont have all the answers and it's a long road but I honestly wouldn't change my daughter now it's who she is . Good luck and don't be so hard on yourself .

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