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Adult son with Asperger Syndrome

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 After 2 years of my son trying to get a job or even get some work experience, I reluctently agreed to take him to the docters and have him made unfit for work. I was advised by the disabilty work adviser at the job centre to do this to prevent him going on to the work programme which we all agreed he would not be able to cope with.

I had a visit from Gloucester careers who gave me some good advice with completing the ESA paperwork and he is now awaiting an assessment. Social services are due to come and finacially assess him so that he can have vouchers for him to be able to access social events. However i am thinging of cancelling this as he is unlikley to want to go anywhere without me or his dad and he is very protective about giving out financial details.

I have found a local social club for him to attend to try and increase his social skills and am still keen to try and help him access work. Before anyone suggests trying Remploy we aready did and they decided that he was too difficult to place!

any ideas on how to help him gain work in the future would be welcomed

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  • Thank you for your reply Longman and I relise after reading it i probably did not explian his circumstances or my concerns for him very well.

    Although I love my son i can not class him as highly intellegent. Since leaving school he has completed various computer couses but , although computers are his main enjoyment, his skills and concentration levels do not seen to be good enough to get him work in that industry.Some while back he was seen by a work psychologist who decided warehouse work might suit him but from what i have seen on TV about warehouse work I doubt he would cope with working at the speed they require or be happy with the noise. At the moment we are looking to get him some voluntary or part time work in a small office.yes you are probably right he may never get a job and then if he does he may not be accepted or even be bullied as he was at school but the alternative we have been given is too hard to bear.

    From what i understand, as his disability is not severe enough to be classed as disabbled, if he is not accepted onto ESA he will be taken off his benefits altogether which would leave myself and my husband in a difficult financial situation. The only alternative to this I have been given is that he applys for independent living. my son is adament that he does not want to leave home and we are adament that he should be able to live with us as long as he wants to.

    i think what worries me most is how he would cope if somthing happens to us? Without work or some alternative income he would not have the finances to survive. 

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  • Thank you for your reply Longman and I relise after reading it i probably did not explian his circumstances or my concerns for him very well.

    Although I love my son i can not class him as highly intellegent. Since leaving school he has completed various computer couses but , although computers are his main enjoyment, his skills and concentration levels do not seen to be good enough to get him work in that industry.Some while back he was seen by a work psychologist who decided warehouse work might suit him but from what i have seen on TV about warehouse work I doubt he would cope with working at the speed they require or be happy with the noise. At the moment we are looking to get him some voluntary or part time work in a small office.yes you are probably right he may never get a job and then if he does he may not be accepted or even be bullied as he was at school but the alternative we have been given is too hard to bear.

    From what i understand, as his disability is not severe enough to be classed as disabbled, if he is not accepted onto ESA he will be taken off his benefits altogether which would leave myself and my husband in a difficult financial situation. The only alternative to this I have been given is that he applys for independent living. my son is adament that he does not want to leave home and we are adament that he should be able to live with us as long as he wants to.

    i think what worries me most is how he would cope if somthing happens to us? Without work or some alternative income he would not have the finances to survive. 

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