Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi I’ve just started University and I’m really struggling to cope. I don’t know what to do because I’ve already paid for the year and need a degree to go into the career that I want. I’m not sure what to do now as I’ve done everything I can think of to help myself settle (e.g. putting up family photos and distracting myself) but none of it is really working. I just want to call my Mum and beg to come home. I really miss her and my Grandparents and my Dog. I struggle to cope with change at the best of times and I think this may be far too much for me to cope with. I have yet to go through a full day without crying and I don’t think I can take much more of this. The people from the University have been really kind and understanding and have been trying to help but I just want my family. I’m not sure where I should go from here does anyone have any advice?
Polar Bear said:The people from the University have been really kind and understanding and have been trying to help but I just want my family.
I found the trick to getting over the homesickness was to find something at the uni to make me want to be there - I joined clubs, went drinkin with people I met there, had a few relationships and generally immersed myself in the different lifestyle to make it exciting
The term only lasts 10 weeks which flies by so I would recommend diverting your focus. Take down the photos and put up posters of things that fire your imagination. Find ways to stimulate your brain and talents, be adventurous and go a bit wild (with appropriate safety considerations of course) and see where the experience takes you.
Be you independently of your family unit and see who you really are. Experiment a bit, open your mind and live in the moment more.
That would be my recommendation.