Published on 12, July, 2020
i’m almost 23, i believe i’m currently suffering with autistic burn out. i’ve no interest in anything currently, overstimulated with my surroundings yet extremely bored and unmotivated to do anything. i get overwhelmed at work and find myself crying most nights.
for as long as i remember i have always struggled making and maintaining friendships and i have never had an autistic friend that i feel i don’t have to pretend around. i have been completely without proper friendships for well over 2 years now, i have forgotten how to socialise, and don’t know how a friend should act and what they should do and talk about. the only people i regularly socialise with outside of work is my nanna and my boyfriend, i would love to have friends but i don’t know how to make them can anyone help?
I found that personally, two things tend to work:
1) Find hobbies/ groups that have similar interests to you. It's easy to bond with people over shared interests, especially if they are niche!
2) Just try to talk to everyone. Literally I stopped caring if people thought I was weird and have made a bunch of friends from it. Usually these people have wanted to connect with others but been too afraid to make the first step themselves. Obviously, sometimes I have been met with negative or rude responses, but that's on them.
Hope this helps. Failing that, maybe you can reflect on how you managed to get along with your boyfriend and maybe try that again? Assuming you were on at least a somewhat friendly basis with him before you started dating (I could be wrong though).
Would it make sense to organise online meetings for autistic adults? I mean within the members of this community
Birth certificate ?
Really bad idea X
In that case me posting my Driver Licence and passport on here was a bad idea huh ?
I'm being flagged as an "abusive spammer" since I wrote the first character in this forum. I'm starting to think I'm not welcome to NAS. Now, I'm going to swear in the Notepad, so nobody will block my interesting messages. Poor me.
cago en la." For reproduction's sake " My real name is Lee, stuck in the middle of my User Name.
I am starting to understand why every autistic I meet is so jealous about their privacy. Am I the only one with a real name, right? :/ How many "Eugenias" can you find in the UK? "Me cago en la..." (I'm swearing in Spanish to avoid being blocked )
I see what what you mean Eugenia.It's just that NAS always says we must not give anything away to reveal our identityfor safety reasons.We can always ask the Mods,they will put us straight.Your idea is a good one though.
Do you think so? I don't know too much because I'm a newcomer, but maybe just scheduling a meeting on any platform like Google Meet or something like that, and posting a link in a new discussion would be sufficient, isn't it?
Not sure The Mods would allow it.Good idea, although the " Red Tape " might prevent it.