Hello all,
Not really sure where to begin as I am one of those people who not only is unable to maintain 'real life' relationships but cannot even generate online relationships.
My main reason for posting is my eldest daughter is demonstrating personality traists that I have always had - which have been brushed aside in my case as depression, post-natal depression, social anxiety etc. I suffer severe social anxiety, anxiety re a lack of routine or structure, lack of empathy or understanding of others intentions or thinking, and when I cannot understand or emphasise with others it causes me to go into a depression or lash out. I have had CBT and referred to coomunity MHT for depression but I have never really felt depressed, just not like everyone else.
Like I said, I have just got along with it all with the very occasional dose of anti-d's and kind (plus not so kind) words but my eldest is displaying behaviour very much like mine - obsessive behaviours such as picking at bits to put in mouth,, needing a routine (possibly one of the few children who breaks down at school hols due to lack of routine), hyper-sensitivity, lack of understanding about others points of views. More worryingly is her increasing violent nature to me and her younger sister (not to others, she is a model pupil at school which has had me more confused) but I have been beaten, kicked and bitten recently today and this is not the first instance but although she has apologised it has not been in recognition of what she has done but more because of the punishment she has received (me to a tea).
Sorry it's such a long message but I would really appreciate any advice as not only am I a mum trying to help, I am also a person who is struggling to empthasise and deal with this in a way that will help her as I really just cannot understand and am trying to get out of viewing this through my own perspective.
