Published on 12, July, 2020
Good Morning ,I'm new to the site and hoping to find the advice that can help my son ,My son is 19 and very High functioning ,he works he drives but any time its is mentioned that he has Autism it seems to hit him like a dagger through the heart. And i think this is what is holding him back. He is a lonely young man but in school he had his friends. they have moved on ,although one or 2 tried to involve him in things it was clear that my son was getting left behind. He enjoys socialising as he never rejects a night out with myself and his mum but we are his parents and have a hope that he will find friends elsewhere. We live in the south side of Glasgow and are wondering if there are any clubs in the area that he could attend with people of a similar ilk. My wife thinks that as he is now 19 there will be no help available because of his age but when he was younger he had his peers ,he had the structure of school his loneliness wasn't so evident .I'm hoping that there is someone out there who can help with any advice on the above or even who my son or ourselves as parents could talk to . i would like to thank you all in advance.
Neil
Autistics do well with others who are of a similar ilk: ADHD, dyslexics for instance. ADHD can seem to be over achievers. Dyslexics are quite common as architects, composers, mechanics and builders - even coffee roasters! It may be good for him to find groups with interest similar to his own (I have a philosophy group on Tuesdays, for instance) and commit to going for a year. It's the act of just showing up that is 80% of a community exercise and relationships are built in shared experience (which may mean finding those who experience and perceive life similar to how he does).
Thank you for that, This was my thinking (and hope) as well. its finding that group and Aaron who replied before has sent me a link .I will keep on searching until i find what he needs, appreciate the advice.