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Social services need to do an assessment of need for you based on you being a carer for your nephew.

This will trigger respite and support.  I cannot believe they are talking about a children's home without having explored other options.  That should be a very, very last resort.

He may be reacting to sensory problems, if you can identify what triggers his aggression he is more likely to calm down.  Can you research a bit about autism and ADHD to find strategies that will help?

You could get some PECS cards and a daily schedule to let him know visually what is needed and what is coming next.  You can also get PECS emotions cards on a keyring that he can use to show what emotion he is feeling.  He sounds frustrated, it's not your fault but he may feel no-one understands him so the first thing you need to be sure of is that you understand all there is that you need to know to help him.

There are stress toys, sensory toys and distraction methods that may help, perhaps a weighted blanket.  He may need a quiet room to de-stress alone.  If he is not at a special school, perhaps he needs that.  Or perhaps he can cope with mainstream or an ASC unit if he has a statement of SENs and a 1-2-1 support in the classroom.

He may be taking his frustrations and stresses of school out when he comes home because he is withholding it whilst he is there.  A lot of autistic children don't speak up if they need help.

He may find noises painful to his ears, he may find busy places difficult, he may have tactile sensitivity, any of these things and more, could be making him behave like that.

Take a deep breath, research, find out your rights do what you can to support and help him and insist that social services do a carer's assessment on you.  You are legally entitled to one.

Social services need to do an assessment of need for you based on you being a carer for your nephew.

This will trigger respite and support.  I cannot believe they are talking about a children's home without having explored other options.  That should be a very, very last resort.

He may be reacting to sensory problems, if you can identify what triggers his aggression he is more likely to calm down.  Can you research a bit about autism and ADHD to find strategies that will help?

You could get some PECS cards and a daily schedule to let him know visually what is needed and what is coming next.  You can also get PECS emotions cards on a keyring that he can use to show what emotion he is feeling.  He sounds frustrated, it's not your fault but he may feel no-one understands him so the first thing you need to be sure of is that you understand all there is that you need to know to help him.

There are stress toys, sensory toys and distraction methods that may help, perhaps a weighted blanket.  He may need a quiet room to de-stress alone.  If he is not at a special school, perhaps he needs that.  Or perhaps he can cope with mainstream or an ASC unit if he has a statement of SENs and a 1-2-1 support in the classroom.

He may be taking his frustrations and stresses of school out when he comes home because he is withholding it whilst he is there.  A lot of autistic children don't speak up if they need help.

He may find noises painful to his ears, he may find busy places difficult, he may have tactile sensitivity, any of these things and more, could be making him behave like that.

Take a deep breath, research, find out your rights do what you can to support and help him and insist that social services do a carer's assessment on you.  You are legally entitled to one.