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Kai's-Mummy

Hi my name is Andrea i have a amazing little 3 year old boy that is autistic, He is my world.

He has only just been diagnosed but i kind of knew things weren't right from a early age just getting people to listen was a nightmare.

I have a problem with certain family members not being able to grasp the fact that he is Autistic and basically say it's bad parenting it hurts that they cannot understand but the fact remains that the only thing that matters is my little boy.

He is so amazing he loves numbers, and he never fails to make me smile.

  • He is amazing he does have meltdowns, he does not like going into to asda or any supermarket he screams or holds his breath and covers his ears we now avoid taking him there. He does not want to toliet train no matter how hard we try he has no interest in it, He wakes through the night with what i think are night terrors because he is crying and shaking.

    He shows me affection now, But if anyone comes to the house he will go sit in the corner tip his toys out and start building them up around him.

    When calling him i have to call him around 5 times before i gain his attention and whenever i touch him i must not touch him on the shoulders, I know when something is about to happen because he will say alligator, He does not say much but everything he does say is something he has learned from a tablet he has.

    But even with all that he is a very happy child and does the most amazing things.

  • Hi, welcome.  Yes, it can be v hurtful when people you are close to/love behave in this way.  Part of the problem, in my experience is that neuro-typical people who've probaly never encountered autism, don't understand.  They judge the child in a neuro-typical way + draw NT conclusions.  To be honest some people don't want to accept a family member is autistic so find other causes - they are uncomfortable about it.  If there are family members who are willing to learn + accept, then it's working out the best way of explaining things to them.  Autism can be quite complicated so I think the best way is to explain it in relation to your little boy + how it affects him.  They may be in denial but at some point they're going to have to accept it.  If it's with only certain family members + however much you may love them + want them to accept things, don't spend too much of your precious time + energy on them.  Save that for your little boy.  They'll come round or they won't.  Other family members seem to be supportive so spend time with them.  Maybe they can influence those who are not.  How's your little boy doing?