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Wifey

Hi everyone, I bumped into this group by desperately looking for answers.

I have been married for 3 years with a man that may be autistic.

my husband is a very quiet person, someone who wants to be on his own. He also have issues with food: he can not eat tomato or anything that touches it on a plate. Vegetables are out of question and in general anything that is mixed in a plate in a disorganised manner. He is perfectly able to keep a high end job and make all his colleagues think he is an angel but then he gets home and does not say a word. He has no notion of time, he is always late and incapable of organising a day' s duties. He almost can not talk about himself. He is handsome and intelligent but strangely insecure, to a pathological extent. He can not deal with pressure, urgent situations are difficult to overcome. He is skilled but clumsy, does not hear very well. He has memory issues with all sort of stuff but the most painful aspect is that he seems to forget what I like or dislike, what turns me on or off, what matters to me or what I hate.

We live in a developing country where there are no specialists available. My life with him is very difficult. I have a son and I am worried he could inherit this.

could anyone tell me if the above sounds familiar?

many thanks

  • Sounds like my Dad, apart from the picky eating.

    The key to a diagnosis is whether or not he has the triad of impairments in interaction, communication, and Theory of mind/social imagination, plus obsessive  interests and/or need for routine and rituals. Furthermore, the problems  would have begun in early childhood, if not earlier, and in order to be of diagnostic significance they need to affect his life to a significant extent; in relationships and occupational functioning.

    It sounds as though he has been pretty successful: wife, children, and job. He could still have very high functioning Aspergers, but only  an expert diagnostician can  say for sure.

    My Dad does not have Aspergers, but I think he has some of the traits.