Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi ~ I think I have autism but a late realisation on that -
How do I get diagnosed as it would help me to relate to family and others better I think - rather than them just thinking I’m weird - and then not making an effort to get along with me -
im intelligent / in my 30s and female - so I’m quite aware of how things work -
but I recently went for a screening and the MH nurse just tried to put her stuff on me :/ even though I was honest and truthful - I do think I have it - I did have educational psychologists come to see me as a kid in school as I acted up frustrated and trashing the place - and in high school they wanted to put me in special education classes but I refused because I am highly intelligent and thought that didn’t make any sense to me why I would need to do that - plus at the time social suicide ?!
So there have been instances when people have noticed something - anyway - I’m female so I live and work and understand things - but I still do think I have autism - I don’t want to say why exactly here but -
could anyone advise me on the hurdles to diagnosis I may face as an intelligent adult female … I don’t want to go in there and battle I just want to be understood and cared for and that my family and friends might then make some slight effort to know me - rather than this avoidance which I don’t think is healthy I’m just a human being
Hi
I would say if you autistic than it's going to be difficult for you to relate to anybody who's not autistic because of their different view of the world
I was diagnosed at 42, went through life not knowing why I don't get like others, and there is simple explanation called Double Empathy problem, watch this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y51w9j5eS50
and intelligence is irrelevant as it was mentioned, the same as allistic we can have from the lowest to the highest, though for us lowest means really difficult life
in kindergarden doctors put on me sticker 'difficult child' and I didn;t know about until 4 years ago, when my mom told me, but I reckon it added to other reasons why I was targeted by bullies, most of them were kids of prominent figures in local community, e.g. doctors, so I reckon doctor who stickered me told his son to stay away from me, and it was like painting a bullseye on my forehead
The reason I thought I have it is I actually started to talking to a perfect stranger because we both said hi and thought that we recognised or knew each other somehow but didn’t know how and turns out that was the similarity by proxy
are you saying that person is autistic? because it works like that, except only for autistic women, I knew a girl as a kid, and she was non-speaking autistic and I had a feeling back then she knows I am different then other kids by the way she smiled to me, and she din't smile to others, and I heard many relations of autisticwomen recognising other autistic like you just described
Yes i was studying autism that day and she said I’m autistic ! So .. it seemed like that was the unspoken bond or just a pure knowing of each other because we were both walking and did this recognition nod to each other and then she came to find me to say I know you - how and I was literally thinking and feeling exactly the same - I just knew her on some instinctual deep level and I didn’t know how but it was like seeing an old friend
and then she said we have a badge we can wear and she started to say about how some people think we don’t need to wear masks but we do … it’s what started to make me think ohhh …