Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I’m new on here and need advice for my daughter. My grandson is 6 years old and for the last 2 years has been throwing anything and everything over the garden fence and out of windows. Anything from his favourite toys to pint glasses, cups, food and anything he can get. Tried setting up things for him to throw, like basketball hoops etc but nothing works. We thought he’d grow out of it but hasn’t and cannot work out a solution. Please any advise would be great
So when your grandson throws that stuff over the fence and and out of windows, what kind of reactions does he get from his mother/your daughter? Sometimes when a child does something (they're not supposed to do), the distressful and frantic states of the parent amuses the child and makes them laugh, as if it's a funny game that produces funny gestures from the parent, so the child keeps doing it. If that's the case, then looking bored or uninterested, even turning away from the child when they're doing that bad thing (as if to say "I'm not interested in playing this game, I'm bored of it") will eventually make the child stop.
We have done that and he continues. The other problem is the neighbour gets really angry even though we have explained he has Autism.
He throws thugs even when no one is around. For example his toys out of his bedroom window, my son-in-laws wedding ring that was on The bedside table, we only knew when by chance it was found in the garden and my grandson told them he threw it out. He threw a glass out of their bedroom window when they were indoors (luckily) as it could of hit someone. I bought him a toy he chose and when we got in he went straight in the garden and threw it over the fence and just came back in.