Published on 12, July, 2020
Evening,
I'm looking for advice which relates to my Son who was diagnosed with Asperger's back in 2017 when he was in Secondary School, he has never accepted the diagnosis. He is now in College and life seems to be getting more challenging for both of us.
His passion is playing on his PC with people he has met online (morning, noon and night if I allowed it),he finds it very difficult to make friends and never want to leave his bedroom apart from going to College (which is a daily struggle).
I'd love him to meet other people his age and have time outside of his bedroom and be happy.
Has anyone experienced the same situation with their teenagers?
Hi there,
I know this an old post but I kind of understand how you are feeling in a sense. I'm wondering if your son could go to gaming conventions to meet fellow gamers in person? I've never been to anything like this and I'm not sure of how you would find them in your area but it could be a way of him feeling more comfortable because he has a special interest to talk about with others? I tried to get into gaming with my daughter so we could connect on a level she is comfortable with but it gave me migraines so that was that. Luckily my daughter also likes board games and drawing so we can do that together.
I think that for me it was about accepting that "gaming" is my daughters thing and her social world. Once I gave her free reign, she's now coming off it more herself when it gets boring and watching youtube with me. I know it's another form of technology which I find difficult but with covid happening it's a blessed relief to be able to socialise online until things open up a bit more and people can travel and explore once again.
Are there any holidays he'd like to plan and try? Perhaps that could be a future venture?
Best of luck with everything.
H.
Hello NAS69923,
Thank you for reaching out to the community. It may be useful to have a look at our NAS services directory, where you could find some social groups which your son may be interested in connecting with:
https://www.autism.org.uk/directory
I hope this helps,
ChloeMod
Thank you for your reply and advice.
Ironically there is no advice. After being assessed myself they just said oh well prescribe you with more medication that should help you talk to a shrink usually which is more than useless. Those who don't have autism yet give advice on it are ironically more clueless than those with it. We just have to find our own coping strategies as we go along in life and learn from our mistakes . Being socially awkward is just part of the condition. We choose not to socilise due to how others treat us that aren't on the spectrum. Hell make freinds eventually though. The majority of my freinds are on the spectrum too. Sure I have nurotypcal freinds too but not many. More freinds more problems is my moto. Maintaining freindships is a headache for most of us on the spectrum too as it requires give and take and having your routine disrupted. So we select freinds via common interests or hobbies. I guess I can't say we as I can't speak for all of us but that's usually how go about it. Socilising to much where's me out and drains me mentally more than anything.
replying, to dump this up, i need some tips myself