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Oh all 6 year olds do that.

Wendy Woo

Hi, my first post but I am sure I am not the first to ask this question. Our son has been diagnosed AS since he was 3, though we knew what was wrong way before that. We have lost count of the number of friends and family that seem to think there is nothing wrong. I think I will scream if I hear one more person say "all boys do that" or "well he's only 6" as if the particular behaviour being discussed is completely normal. We just don't seem to be able to convey how his condition diplays itself. For the most part he just comes across as being a naughty or rude boy and is prone to outbursts if he does not get his own way. Most people do not see what we have to deal with because we work so hard on his behavior. I think peoples comments are meant to make us feel better but at the end of a stressful episode you would like them to try it for a week and see if they still think he is just "being a boy". This has turned out to be more of a rant than a question, the main thing being, if anyone can sum autistic spectrum in a nut shell please give me a hint.

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  • Hi Crystal 12. Thank you for your response. The mere fact that someone understands is comfort in itself. I used to like the film "Rainman" and now its the bane of my life. As you say it is some peoples only reference point. I think the key point I have drawn from your response is the fact that when people ask about the condition they refer to how it is displayed. The responses are then deemed appropriate, because the point is its not the response that is the problem it is the fear and confusion caused by a given situation. It is the reaction to stimulus, break in routine that is not NT (am I allowed to say normal or is that offensive?).

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  • Hi Crystal 12. Thank you for your response. The mere fact that someone understands is comfort in itself. I used to like the film "Rainman" and now its the bane of my life. As you say it is some peoples only reference point. I think the key point I have drawn from your response is the fact that when people ask about the condition they refer to how it is displayed. The responses are then deemed appropriate, because the point is its not the response that is the problem it is the fear and confusion caused by a given situation. It is the reaction to stimulus, break in routine that is not NT (am I allowed to say normal or is that offensive?).

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