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Oh all 6 year olds do that.

Wendy Woo

Hi, my first post but I am sure I am not the first to ask this question. Our son has been diagnosed AS since he was 3, though we knew what was wrong way before that. We have lost count of the number of friends and family that seem to think there is nothing wrong. I think I will scream if I hear one more person say "all boys do that" or "well he's only 6" as if the particular behaviour being discussed is completely normal. We just don't seem to be able to convey how his condition diplays itself. For the most part he just comes across as being a naughty or rude boy and is prone to outbursts if he does not get his own way. Most people do not see what we have to deal with because we work so hard on his behavior. I think peoples comments are meant to make us feel better but at the end of a stressful episode you would like them to try it for a week and see if they still think he is just "being a boy". This has turned out to be more of a rant than a question, the main thing being, if anyone can sum autistic spectrum in a nut shell please give me a hint.

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  • Crystal12, your comments are spot on, unless you live with the condition or the parent, most people around do not understand the condition. Having autism myself, I would say it is like having one socket of the plug out of the mains which makes you short-circuit if too much electricity is channelled in by the world. The supply is still there but the message is overwhelming, which makes you over sensitive to the environment aka senses.

    Nutshell ~ fear and confusion

    Here is my little rant, or after thoughts, autism is like trying to discover the rule book of life to stop stress and fear in the social environment, once you are taught the rules of life by your parents, i.e behaviour, you have new problem, that the set of rules ie ethics, morals, etc are not followed to the letter and as you don't have the same Nt flexibility(lying, chopping and changing), this rigid rulebook becomes a social nightmare, so it is back stress and fear again. An autism nightmare example, don't park on double yellow lines, or keep of the grass, OKAY !,, people then park on double yellow lines and walk on the grass,,, you see the pain the NT's rule book puts us through !!!!!!!!!! Yell  we should call the earth, the CONTRADICTION WORLD ! It is like getting two conflicting messages at once and you don't know which one is right and the one that is right is wrong because they still park on double yellow lines and walk on the grass.. Arghhhhhhh ! We take things very literal, black and white,,, and unfortunately we remember all the bullshit facts of the Nts which they do not remember, they just make it up as they go along, but have a paper copy which is laws and rules which are bullshit as they are not followed, but they say there are and should be ! Work that one out ? So in conclusion how can you trust NT's when they talk bullshit, it is as if they are half-drunk in the mind and can't remember there own world of rules, but we with autism have to follow them to the letter to make sense of the world.

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  • Crystal12, your comments are spot on, unless you live with the condition or the parent, most people around do not understand the condition. Having autism myself, I would say it is like having one socket of the plug out of the mains which makes you short-circuit if too much electricity is channelled in by the world. The supply is still there but the message is overwhelming, which makes you over sensitive to the environment aka senses.

    Nutshell ~ fear and confusion

    Here is my little rant, or after thoughts, autism is like trying to discover the rule book of life to stop stress and fear in the social environment, once you are taught the rules of life by your parents, i.e behaviour, you have new problem, that the set of rules ie ethics, morals, etc are not followed to the letter and as you don't have the same Nt flexibility(lying, chopping and changing), this rigid rulebook becomes a social nightmare, so it is back stress and fear again. An autism nightmare example, don't park on double yellow lines, or keep of the grass, OKAY !,, people then park on double yellow lines and walk on the grass,,, you see the pain the NT's rule book puts us through !!!!!!!!!! Yell  we should call the earth, the CONTRADICTION WORLD ! It is like getting two conflicting messages at once and you don't know which one is right and the one that is right is wrong because they still park on double yellow lines and walk on the grass.. Arghhhhhhh ! We take things very literal, black and white,,, and unfortunately we remember all the bullshit facts of the Nts which they do not remember, they just make it up as they go along, but have a paper copy which is laws and rules which are bullshit as they are not followed, but they say there are and should be ! Work that one out ? So in conclusion how can you trust NT's when they talk bullshit, it is as if they are half-drunk in the mind and can't remember there own world of rules, but we with autism have to follow them to the letter to make sense of the world.

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