Newly diagnosed in my 30s

Hi

I finally got my diagnosis, two years after asking my GP - quite a short wait I know, I was lucky that I am in the catchment area for the Maudsley! But I found out after I told family that they "always thought there was something wrong" and I feel like my parents didnt do enough, didnt protect me enough, i'm angry! My sister and brother don't seem to care, we aren't a close family..

When I read my report (which obviously involved a long talk with my informant, which was my mum) I cried and cried. I was gutted to read about this lonely five year old, who wanted to join in but didn't know how, who wanted friends, but couldn't make them. Im still feeling very alone and upset by reading these things. I feel invisible really. I've felt like that for a long time. I have no friends really (am in my 30s) and would like some..

I have never had much of a career, left one recently because the stress of it was enough. I whistleblow when I see the need so employers don't like that. I just feel lost, chaotic and alone even though I have a supportive partner.

Does anyone know of any groups where people can meet up in the London area? 

Thank you for any advice, even any replies. 

Parents
  • Sorry to hear that ur family didnt act on it. Maybe they thought diagnosis would hold u back(u have to be a parent in their time to understand their point of view maybe!).

    I felt annoyed after being diagnosed on spectrum at 49(particularly as second assessment is now going down ADHD,knowing i don't like sound of meds for it!),but(and not easy),maybe time to find strengths in diagnosis. Dwelling in the past connected with families can ruin ur life,by itself.

Reply
  • Sorry to hear that ur family didnt act on it. Maybe they thought diagnosis would hold u back(u have to be a parent in their time to understand their point of view maybe!).

    I felt annoyed after being diagnosed on spectrum at 49(particularly as second assessment is now going down ADHD,knowing i don't like sound of meds for it!),but(and not easy),maybe time to find strengths in diagnosis. Dwelling in the past connected with families can ruin ur life,by itself.

Children
  • Ur right, thank u for taking the time to write a reply knowing what u have been through as well having read ur posts last night... And actually ur also bang on with what u said about being a parent - my mum said that my dad thought exactly that! (didnt want me 'labelled') I'm trying to have some empathy for them not being a parent myself Smirk