Morning everyone, hope you are all well. I'm looking for guidance and support, heres my story:
I am Mum to a wonderful 5 year old girl who has had problems since birth. She was diagnoised with hypermobility and this was the reason I was given for her not meeting any of her developmental mile stones. She was two years old before she walked.
She was a good baby who hardly ever cried, slept well and was easy to care for, so you can imagine the shock I got when aged 3 she started lashing out and being defiant. The nursery she was at were concerned about her development and advised me to seek medical advice. She was assessed by a health visitor at this time and they discovered that she had developmental problems so we were sent to a child development specialist. I've been seeing this specialist since Georgia was 3 and we get 6monthly reviews. To start with she told me that my nursery just couldn't cope with a difficult child, then she tried to tell me we were experiencing the terrible twos and Georgia would grow out of it. The nursery teacher suggested a year ago that Georgia might have aspergers. She cares for a family member with the condition and said Georgia's behaviour was the same.
The child development speialist has kept the same opinion all the way through, Georgia makes eye contact and therefore couldn't be Autistic. Well she started school last August and although it took a few weeks to show, the behaviours started again and more importantly as time goes on things are getting worse.
I feel like my 5 year old isn't growing up, shes getting younger again. She picks rubbish off the ground and food and puts it in her mouth (she never did this as a toddler), she gets up frequently during the night (she used to sleep right through). Shes always had a flare for jigsaw puzzles and has been doing 6+ jigsaws for at least a year but yesterday she struggled witn a 3+.
She struggles with school, not just the classwork but trying to socialise. She has a fasanation with hair & pulling it which means the other kids don't want to play with her. She hates being touched and lashes out constantly now.
I will cut my extremely long story shorter, we saw the child development doctor on 21st January and she said Georgia has ADHD and probably Autism, then had the cheek to ask me to leave because she had another appointment. My whole day was dreadful because of that half hour appointment at 1.30pm, right in the middle of the school day. Poor kid didn't want to leave school. I didn't so much as get a leaflet and now I feel so lost. As each day passes I feel like I lose a little bit more of her. Shes regressing and its so scary to see, mostly because there is not a damn thing I can do about it.
What am I suppose to do when she hits me? Do I give her into trouble or just ignore it? I have started just saying "thats not nice" and leaving it at that because I don't know if she understands. The school have been fantastic and are giving me info about home support help but of course there is a waiting list. They are struggling at school, although she has support teachers, they can't be with her all the time so I have given up my job to be at school with her during the day. I only go in for a short time everyday but we thought if I could help her concentrate she might start learning. She can't read or write, she only started scribbling a couple of months ago. Georgia calls me Mrs Mummy when we are in school, bless her.
I am due to see the child development doctor in March but that seems like a lifetime away.
I'm sorry for rambling on, ive just no idea what I am suppose to be doing and I don't want to make anything worse.
