Published on 12, July, 2020
Firstly, apologies for any words or phrasing I might use unwittingly that could cause offence. And sorry for the rambling - I hope someone will read this. I'm really new to all this and not sure where I am.
I think I may have autism. I started looking into it because of one or two of my children that I'm also wondering about, and a passing comment made by a friend who has a family member on the spectrum.
I want to ask a question that's been bothering me. I'm very happy with language and metaphor. In fact English lit, and modern languages were subjects I was naturally drawn to and good at. I've never had any difficulty understanding nuances in meaning and I love words. I'm also very artistic, and talking about maths concepts and logic make my brain hurt.
I have dug under a lot of things in my life recently and realised I'm not what I thought I was. I have identified quite a few traits that could be classified as autistic, that I could see I have been masking throughout my life to get by. The past year has shown me I don't have any friends to rely on, I've always been the one to work the hardest to keep relationships going and this pandemic has really brought this into sharp relief.
But I keep wondering if I am just socially inept and my anxieties exist because my mother was overprotective before I left home. I never struggled at school academically, I got through most of my subjects without much difficulty - not that I understood everything, but then who does? I was always the quiet, shy, conscientious student that the teachers complained needed to speak up more in class.
I haven't found anyone that says that people with autism can also love metaphor and imagery and not struggle with sarcasm. Is there anyone out there like me that has had a diagnosis or knows they have autism? Please be kind and please also be honest.
Thank you for reading if you have got this far.
Hi DiQ.
I've recently been diagnosed and it took a manager/friends chance conversation with a psychologist that set me on the road to an assessment. I'm one of those "highly functioning" folk - reasonably well educated, in work - but with a history of burnouts and depressive episodes so was overlooked for years. Just reading the NHS description https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/autism/signs/adults/ which normally would be my go-to for any medical info seems hopelessly vague.
Aidie's link might give you a clue. I've stopped using mine to the AQ10 since I've learned how rubbish it is and how I got lucky when I used it.
Explore your ideas for a bit. It's a really diverse condition so difficult to latch onto specific things as an indicator of whether you are on the spectrum or not. Some of the things you might consider "normal" aren't in the neurotypical world. If you identify with some of the discussions on the forum that also might help give you a clearer idea.
Best wishes
Ethan thank you for your kind response. Yes it was a bit bewildering even reading up on things. After I read the responses that I've had, I felt a bit more supported and more comfortable about feeling like I have a right to be here.
You're so right. The more I've read/listened to things, the more I realise that I have been using all these coping mechanisms and also somethings I think everyone thinks, they actually don't! It's a bit scary delving into things though. It's hard not to feel like it's all in my head because we're locked down and aren't going out much. I'm going to try and pace myself!