Published on 12, July, 2020
I am autistic and have become obsessed with a guy I met through work called Bob I told him I loved him and we have been going out for 10 months Basically my emotions are too intense and are causing me to breakdown have hysterics drink too much to block the pain and insecurity, depression and stress this relationship is causing me, I have invasive thoughts that pop into my head to upset. He seems to have Asphergers. I can't tolerate his dirty house and how he spends his weekends drinking wine alone, he upsets me by letting me down, not turning up because he is drunk and forgetting things I find important. I think he has Aspergers he doesn't socialise and as we work nights is nocturnal, just spends his weekends listening to Dr Who CDs and radio. He has no TVs or Internet can't get to grips with new tech and reads serious books. He has never had a girlfriend in 32 years. Basically we don't understand each other. I have tried to tolerate him, tried to change him but can't, I have tried nagging him, I have tried explaining how he is making me feel, he doesn't understand me but I feel like he is an addiction I can't end. How do I get my life back?
Hey, This feels like a messy situation, I feel that personally you both should go to some therapy or be able to speak to someone else outside your relationship. Maybe speaking to someone who isn't in your relationship will help you both to communicate better. Speak to your GP or some other professionals to get some help. I would try to stop with the excessive drinking, as I feel it not helping you both.
Hope you both get through this.