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Martin
over 4 years ago

Hi there. 

My name is Martin. I'm a 35 year old Security Guard from Southampton and I suffer heavily with depression and anxiety but no level of help with these have ever seemed to work. I spoke with all manner of doctors. Psychiatrists. All sorts. Nothing seems to help clean things up. 

I've spoke with my GP and a referral has been made to an adult autism clinic for assessment but as many of you may know this takes a good while. 

I just want to feel normal as this behaviour and way I often feel is effecting both my home life, where I'm a husband and a father to 5 amazing kids, also my work life, this is effected in a very different way because people don't often enjoy people being very blunt shall we say. In both I often speak way before I have given what I'm about to say any thought.

I guess I'm the same as many of you really just looking for some answers to try and allow myself time to heal and learn to live with whatever it is that causes these problems I face. 

Sorry if you've read this and think what's the point but I've never really found a platform to speak freely without judgement. 

Thank you for reading. 

Martin. 

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  • over 4 years ago

    welcome, u shouldt use ur name and then ur town and ur job basically u can be easily identified from that info.

    But that is up to you. U can edit what u have written.

    apart from that  

    what is normal  who wants to be normal ? ( Picasso ) 

    seriously the best thing is to relax and accept yourself, Be nice to yourself.

    U R a successful man with a job and family !  u cant do any better than that.

    My fights at work made me seek a diagnosis which is  reallly a good idea not ust for u but ur kids as well. For example my daughter now thinks she is autistic and I say she is correct. Autism can hide in families until someone has the balls to seek a diagnosis Slight smile. My mum was really rattled when I told her because guess what she is as well. She just never realised, just like me.

    I have used meditation to reduce substantially my anxiety and my intermittent mild depression. Both are fading as I progress into meditation. ( 2/3 years now )

    it not a cure, more of a tool to be used when things get bad. U practice it when well then when things get blue you up ur meditation and get thru it. Each time the anx, and depression gets weakened.

    Again this is something u should practice just so u can show ur kids this very valuable tool for life. 

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  • over 4 years ago

    welcome, u shouldt use ur name and then ur town and ur job basically u can be easily identified from that info.

    But that is up to you. U can edit what u have written.

    apart from that  

    what is normal  who wants to be normal ? ( Picasso ) 

    seriously the best thing is to relax and accept yourself, Be nice to yourself.

    U R a successful man with a job and family !  u cant do any better than that.

    My fights at work made me seek a diagnosis which is  reallly a good idea not ust for u but ur kids as well. For example my daughter now thinks she is autistic and I say she is correct. Autism can hide in families until someone has the balls to seek a diagnosis Slight smile. My mum was really rattled when I told her because guess what she is as well. She just never realised, just like me.

    I have used meditation to reduce substantially my anxiety and my intermittent mild depression. Both are fading as I progress into meditation. ( 2/3 years now )

    it not a cure, more of a tool to be used when things get bad. U practice it when well then when things get blue you up ur meditation and get thru it. Each time the anx, and depression gets weakened.

    Again this is something u should practice just so u can show ur kids this very valuable tool for life. 

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