Published on 12, July, 2020
So as the title says, this is another newbie thread. I’m Anthony and it’s looking increasingly likely that I am on the spectrum. I’m working with a specialist at the moment and all the screening tools are pointing towards an aspergersesque outcome. It’s been a long journey getting thus far. I just wish it came sooner because it’s been quite damaging for me.
My traits have been problematic, especially on the social front - I pretty much redefine the term ‘socially awkward’... To be honest it’s quite a big step me posting on here!
I don’t really know what else I can say... other than I’m not showing symptoms of covid-19, so this post isn’t contagious. So feel free to ask questions... I’m better at answering questions than I am trying to work out what to write!
It took me 20 months to get the GP to agree to refer me - but then only took 4 months to get diagnosed. Got there in the end. I struggle with real world friendships and relationships too - although I am married with kids - but put that down to my husband being potentially ADHD and possibly an undiagnosed Aspie
Yeah I’ll get there... believe it or not I was originally referred for assessment in 2014/15 then circumstances changed, then there wasn’t access where I was to the services etc etc but were headed in the right direction now and all screening is thus far basically pointing to what I was told way back at the start of this journey that I’m almost certainly got Aspergers. How do you deal with the social issues? That’s what’s plagued my life the most.
Traditionally I have been involved in church which gave me some social. I don't need a lot. So even a wave or brief word with someone while I'm out walking my dog helps. I also have a diary on another forum around money management. Typically I get on best with people I work with. Long term friendships I tend to 'fail' at as I forget to follow up. I hate group socials unless I have a role
See I am similar in that sense but I have this odd imbalance between the desire to be sociable and the inability to do it well :-/ I think a lot of my past issues derive from my social situation so I am keen to turn it around but it’s a tall order :(