Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all my 2 year old son has been diagnosed with asd and recently started nursery problem is lately he's started biting and pinching people at home with no kind of warning and today for the 1st time he pinched 2 children in nursery he can't talk and doesn't understand commands much so how can I teach him to stop I'm worried sick about him and others around him and advice would be great thanks in advance
I would say that pinching is an action that has been done to him, Otherwise how else is he going to work out how to inflict a painful action on another individual. He was born innocent. He is only 2 years old.
Always examine your son for unexplained bruising, A painful pinch, or a painful flick may have been done as a means of control.
My severely autistic son (Now 36) was not finally diagnosed until 3.5 years by a specialist team of pediatric Neuralogist, Language , Play and interaction team and perhaps others at a Children's hospital on being referred there. Some how at his special school later he had learned to flick very hard (and painful). Just be aware, but also remember kids do fall over and bash into things. and get bruised that way. even holding your sons arms to restrain a violent outburst quite probably will mark them with finger tips bruising delicate skin without intention to do so. So be careful.
So consult your doctor, if somebody has spotted you son's handicap at 2 years old, that is unusual. He may be more handicapped than you realise. He will definitely need specialist education, and Local Authorities are reluctant to expend their budgets if they can get away with it. If he is severely handicapped he may even need specialist residential or transporting daily to a special school. so your social services should be involved if you have a formal specialist diagnosis you can refer to.
Keep a diary of meetings you have with anything to do with your son. Who you speak to and what they have said. and anything special he does like suddenly dropping down for no apparent reason, when out and about. This may well help you get mobility help if he need close support to protect him, or others such as other kids from a pinch or flick in passing.
I would say it would be best for your son not to try and interact in a pile of kids as he is at the bottom of the Pile for reason of age, and possible with a learning disability that needs constant supervision. and cannot communicate, He cannot express his needs, or wants except by physical action.
Another child has something attractive, could be just a red toy brick and he will try and get it. and a normal child not being an adult who has been trained in the needs of an autistic child will resist, and you son may well bite and get hurt back., but being autistic he will still want the red brick.
Even non autistic children of any age may bite another if they have a reason to do so as a last resort..
Thanks alot for your reply and Yes i agree it is weird to be diagnosed so young and also that its paticularly mind of normal for kids of his aye to go though a stage like this its just mad Now quickly he changed and started this behaviour cos he had never done it before also my hv and portage worker are trying to get him fuming so he has 1 to 1 care at nursery it worried the life out of me k losing hes not already got somebody watching him all the time bit the hv insiste nursery is important for routine etc hes waiting for physio appointment but they believe he May be hypermobility and i can deffo see problems in his walking etc i have 6 older children and Yes like nothing ive dvd expieriences before bit i Will day hes the most beautiful and rewarding special little boy im in awe of him im just so lost as to what to do or Expect from him or out lives etc its a lonely road that ive never been down before so im hoping that i can get some help out of these forums if nothing else thanks again
Wow predictive text really messed that reply up lol