hi everyone. I'm mum to a young adult man with autism. He's in supported living. I first came across the nas when he was about 4 when they were very helpful in letting us access a course they'd arranged. I've been a member for years but didn't realise there was a discussion forum.....really pleased about that! We've certainly had our ups and downs over the yrs, to put it mildly, so I hope I can be a useful contributor and also learn from all of you.
crystal12 said:hi - yes the benefits office doesn't seem to make much distinction at these "medicals". Lots of people getting anxious and depressed. The power these people have over the lives of others is incredible and pretty frightening. Everyone's lumped in the same boat. I think everyone who gets knocked back should appeal. It can take ages now to get it heard but it's backdated to when you put the appeal in. Our children and ourselves have enough to deal with without getting treated like this.
I don't think my son's developed to a point where he would be able to have a mutually satisfying relationship with a partner. In the years to come maybe I'll be proved wrong - I hope so. He has people he likes, people he doesn't like and everything in between, just like the rest of us. He is young for his years in many ways. He has a good team of carers, so as long as that remains the case I feel more confident about his future. We all worry what will happen when we go.
most do, and a good lot get their benefits reinstated, as they were unfairly taken away in the first place,
as i said in another thread about this issue, they (the "interviewrs") get paid for actually taking people off, its how their system works, so obviously they will do that, a lot, not fair but thats what the business is, and sadly it is a business now
my partner never saw himself having a relationship never mind one thats lasted 12 years, it happens, actually lots of autistics have relationships, its true tho a lot dont work out, but then, thats the same with non autistic relationships isnt it, so its not something to worry too much about yet 
crystal12 said:hi - yes the benefits office doesn't seem to make much distinction at these "medicals". Lots of people getting anxious and depressed. The power these people have over the lives of others is incredible and pretty frightening. Everyone's lumped in the same boat. I think everyone who gets knocked back should appeal. It can take ages now to get it heard but it's backdated to when you put the appeal in. Our children and ourselves have enough to deal with without getting treated like this.
I don't think my son's developed to a point where he would be able to have a mutually satisfying relationship with a partner. In the years to come maybe I'll be proved wrong - I hope so. He has people he likes, people he doesn't like and everything in between, just like the rest of us. He is young for his years in many ways. He has a good team of carers, so as long as that remains the case I feel more confident about his future. We all worry what will happen when we go.
most do, and a good lot get their benefits reinstated, as they were unfairly taken away in the first place,
as i said in another thread about this issue, they (the "interviewrs") get paid for actually taking people off, its how their system works, so obviously they will do that, a lot, not fair but thats what the business is, and sadly it is a business now
my partner never saw himself having a relationship never mind one thats lasted 12 years, it happens, actually lots of autistics have relationships, its true tho a lot dont work out, but then, thats the same with non autistic relationships isnt it, so its not something to worry too much about yet
