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New Member - Advice Required

Charlied

Hi

We are new to the forum and would really welcome some advice. We live in Faversham in Kent.

Our son is 10 and was diagnosed with ASD around 8 months ago, this happened to coincide with the time that we moved house.

He found it very hard to cope with the move and his anxieties have manifested themselves in violence towards us.

He is never violent to other people only his close family. Due to his size he is really hurting me (mum) and his younger brother.

Because we have moved to a different health authority we have found it very difficult to get help. We are still waiting to see someone to help us understand how to deal with his behaviour. His paeditrician has referred us to a support group but who knows when we will actually manage to see them.

Can anyone point us in the right direction to get help to cope with his behaviour? We feel we need strategies to prevent him from going into violent tantrums. We also need advice on how best to deal with him during the tantrum. And also what to do afterwards, should we try and discuss it with him or leave him alone?

Because of the tantrums we also find it difficult to enforce any rules for fear of it leading to a tantrum. He constantly answers back and hits out for example if we ask him to get ready for bed, but if we try and discipline him it escalates.

We would be very grateful of any advice.

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  • Hi gosh it sounds like you have really been through the mill| With the system I mean.  Its really unfortunate that you had adiagnosis the day before moving health authorities.

    With the daily care routines eg washing,bathing going to the toilet etc Ive found using picture cards displayed in the bathroom/toilet really helpfull.  They show exactly what the child needs to do pictorially.  There are web sites listed on this site where you can print them out or easier still you can order ready made ones from ebay for acouple of pounds. 

    They have worked wonders with my son who is the same age as yours- they help to reduce anxiety and outbursts.  He follows them and i let him get on with it himself (whilst being on call for help off course)  Lots of children on the spectrum have problems with toileting.   He enjoys playing with the cards also.  You could contact your local childrens centre also as some of them have thew software to produce the picture cards and may be able to do it for you.  Also ask the school for your son to see an educational psychologist if you think he may be struggling at his new school.  You dont need to wait for camhs for that side of things.

     

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  • Hi gosh it sounds like you have really been through the mill| With the system I mean.  Its really unfortunate that you had adiagnosis the day before moving health authorities.

    With the daily care routines eg washing,bathing going to the toilet etc Ive found using picture cards displayed in the bathroom/toilet really helpfull.  They show exactly what the child needs to do pictorially.  There are web sites listed on this site where you can print them out or easier still you can order ready made ones from ebay for acouple of pounds. 

    They have worked wonders with my son who is the same age as yours- they help to reduce anxiety and outbursts.  He follows them and i let him get on with it himself (whilst being on call for help off course)  Lots of children on the spectrum have problems with toileting.   He enjoys playing with the cards also.  You could contact your local childrens centre also as some of them have thew software to produce the picture cards and may be able to do it for you.  Also ask the school for your son to see an educational psychologist if you think he may be struggling at his new school.  You dont need to wait for camhs for that side of things.

     

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