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New Member - Advice Required

Charlied

Hi

We are new to the forum and would really welcome some advice. We live in Faversham in Kent.

Our son is 10 and was diagnosed with ASD around 8 months ago, this happened to coincide with the time that we moved house.

He found it very hard to cope with the move and his anxieties have manifested themselves in violence towards us.

He is never violent to other people only his close family. Due to his size he is really hurting me (mum) and his younger brother.

Because we have moved to a different health authority we have found it very difficult to get help. We are still waiting to see someone to help us understand how to deal with his behaviour. His paeditrician has referred us to a support group but who knows when we will actually manage to see them.

Can anyone point us in the right direction to get help to cope with his behaviour? We feel we need strategies to prevent him from going into violent tantrums. We also need advice on how best to deal with him during the tantrum. And also what to do afterwards, should we try and discuss it with him or leave him alone?

Because of the tantrums we also find it difficult to enforce any rules for fear of it leading to a tantrum. He constantly answers back and hits out for example if we ask him to get ready for bed, but if we try and discipline him it escalates.

We would be very grateful of any advice.

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  • Hi Charlied,

    We have similar probs with our son who is six we are currently waiting for a referral from GP to CAMHS for some help.

    Have you got a National Autistic Society Group in Kent, they are fantastic and usually offer newly diagnosed parents a workshop.

    Only thing I can think of if it is do with his routines being upset is take him round the area making sure he knows where everything is, use visual cards (can give you more info about these if you are not sure what they are) to reinforce new routine.  Make sure he is happy with the way round his bedroom is, maybe put his name on his room door to reinforce it is his new room.

    Also whenever I'm stuck just search on this website for information makes you realise your not alone.

    www.autism.org.uk/.../challenging-behaviour-in-children-with-an-asd.aspx

    Hope something here helps, if not hope your referral comes through quickly or the parent group get in touch :-)

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  • Hi Charlied,

    We have similar probs with our son who is six we are currently waiting for a referral from GP to CAMHS for some help.

    Have you got a National Autistic Society Group in Kent, they are fantastic and usually offer newly diagnosed parents a workshop.

    Only thing I can think of if it is do with his routines being upset is take him round the area making sure he knows where everything is, use visual cards (can give you more info about these if you are not sure what they are) to reinforce new routine.  Make sure he is happy with the way round his bedroom is, maybe put his name on his room door to reinforce it is his new room.

    Also whenever I'm stuck just search on this website for information makes you realise your not alone.

    www.autism.org.uk/.../challenging-behaviour-in-children-with-an-asd.aspx

    Hope something here helps, if not hope your referral comes through quickly or the parent group get in touch :-)

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