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turmoil

Hi I'm Tim aka turmoil,

I'm a possible-Aspie - one of the psychiatrists I see is sure, the other says no cos Aspies can't tell difference between people and objects (which i don't) so I feel confused and lost.  At 40 its late to try and get diagnosed, but I need to. Its hard to push for it without psychs really being on my side, but I need to know for sure, and get access to things if I have.  I struggled through school/college/work, and did quite well despite my problems, but when are really quiet/awkward/inconfident then people just target you and don't take you seriously, and some resent you being around (presumably because someone normal should be there instead?).  My only relationship crashed and burned, and that caused work to be even more difficult and embarrasing, so my life crashed and burned too. I've since spent the last 10 years trying to build myself back up, without any help or real appreciation of my difficulties.  I was diagnosed with social anxiety in 2002, which didn't really cover all my problems but i accepted it like a good boy and drifted some more.  Its only when I tried to start another relationship that I've become more aware of my difficulties, and need to sort them otherwise i'm gonna crash and burn again soon :/

I wanna see the positives, get help, but gotta try and get a diagnosis first, otherwise I feel awkward asking, and know I may need a diagnosis at some point to get access to things.

  • Having spoke to Autism West Midlands, and a work psychologist, I now realise hes probably got a poor understand of Aspergers, but shouldn't be that way.  I need to know for sure, and i need these people on my side if gonna get a diagnosis :/

    I do prefer objects to people, always have, but don't confuse the two - i'm all too aware that people are not objects, i can't work them out most of the time.

    I've never read anywhere that Aspies treat people like objects, I dunno where he got that idea from.  He also says I'm just a really nice guy, and laughs, so i feel he's just being patronising.  Trouble is medical people are atypical, usually, so i can't work them out either, and don't feel they understand me either.  Nightmare.

  • turmoil said:
    Aspies can't tell difference between people and objects

    Erm...

    1. All Aspies are different and very few of us have all the traits.

    2. It's not that we can't tell the difference between people and objects, it that some of us, to put it very simplisticly 'prefer objects to people' - precisely because we're all too aware of the difference (and find people, with their own minds, own thoughts, etc, all too confusing (so, as child, we may play with lego, instead with other children, or, as an adult, will prefer to spend an evening tinkering in a shed, rather than going down the pub))!