Published on 12, July, 2020
I don't quite know how to start really. I have been in a relationship now with a girl for 6 months and she has an autistic son who is now an adult. Her son suddenly left home without warning and set himself up in a flat and has had no contact with his family for over 4 weeks now. Obviously this has left the mother distraught, confused and very lost as to what is going on. My girlfriend has told me that she believes she is also autistic and with her son leaving suddenly it has left a huge hole in her life. I'm trying to deal with a number of things at the moment but my main priority is to my girlfriend who i am trying to support and help. I'm just wondering what her next steps should be in regaining communication with her son. Thanks for listening and any advice would be very grateful.
Her son might just need some time to cool off, and pressing him at his point might push him further away. The answer might be for your girlfriend simply to be patient and let him make the first move, having already made sure by whatever means that her son knows she is there for him if he needs her.
Yeah we have agreed not to push him and give him the space he needs, i just fear that this could go on for months/years until he gets in contact and i am not sure how she will cope with that. She has left a letter and an easter egg with his work place to give him and he has by all accounts accepted that. I am just trying to keep her busy and occupied at the moment.