Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I have just joined this site in need of help!
I have a 13 year old boy with Aspergers and he is now out of control. He is a big lad, very strong and at times physically abusive.
We have trubble getting him to school as he won't get out of bed and this can lead into a verbal fight or sometime him pushing me about. I have been told to give him the 5min warning but he is to old for that now? I have taken away all the computers and tv in he's room today with made him go completly mad at me and gave him a bigger reason to stay in bed.
He is putting such a strain on the family and i don't know whats the best road to go down?
I have a 14 year old son with autism, and often have difficulty getting him out of bed in the morning. His emotional development is less than his age in years would suggest, so I do still use techniques (such as the 5 minute warning) which are usually for younger children, and they can still work. I try to pick my battles carefully. I also use rewards for good behaviour (such as a favourite magazine, or extra computer time) and removal or reduction of computer time for bad behaviour. Invariably, he sometimes gets very angry, sometimes breaks things, then runs to his room. I find it best to let him get it out of his system if possible, because he won't listen to anything at times like that, it usually makes things worse. However if your son is being physically abusive, you will need advice which I don't feel qualified to offer. Hopefully someone else will help you here, or you could try the NAS helpline.
Just a thought, but has he always hated going to school, or is it recent? Has anything happened there which has particularly upset him?