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jenwren

Hello all

My name is Jen , me and my Husband have four children and our 9 year old son Jack is having really bad problems :(

We have been fighting for 4 and a half years for a diagnoses for Jack and last year he got misdiagnosed and treated for ADHD . Me and my husband ( and the rest of oour family ) have always known that he has Autism . Jack soils himself and has done for the last 4 and a half years , not only that he has an obsession with Football and Maths .

Only recently we went to CAHMS and the doctor there noticed that Jack cannot maintain eye contact and that he is very over emotional and he can't handle new situations at all . On Monday we saw the Pediatrician and at the end of Jack's appointment I asked what she thought it was and she said that she thinks that Jack is on the autistic spectrum . I was so relieved because I need to know what it is .

i would like to know is his soiling associated with Autism ? He soils himself all day long ( but not at night ) he has not got anything medically wrong with him a he has seen the Gastro and had all the tests .

I got really upset today because our Family support worker said because I am emotional it is making Jack worse :(

Jack is also violent at home and in school . In school he is not allowed any playtime because he is violent to the other children and for his own safety .

Any advice would be wonderful

Thank you for reading this post :) 

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  • Mhairi said:
    We bribed him with chocolate in the end, but I realise that would not work in your circumstances with an older child.

    I wouldn't be so sure about that!

    It's a generalisation, of course, but we, on the spectrum, are often motivated more by reward than by punishment.

    I know if you want me to do something you're much more likely to succeed by offering me some kind of tangible reward for doing it, than by berating me for not doing it.

    So something like a start chart might well work, with the child getting a star for each day they manage to stay clean (though, it's then important to make the child feel like they're not being punished on days when they don't), then at the end of the week they get a reward based on how many stars they have - I would think it would work best if you have several things that the child can get stars for - so that even on bad days there's likely to be something positive to give a star for.

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  • Mhairi said:
    We bribed him with chocolate in the end, but I realise that would not work in your circumstances with an older child.

    I wouldn't be so sure about that!

    It's a generalisation, of course, but we, on the spectrum, are often motivated more by reward than by punishment.

    I know if you want me to do something you're much more likely to succeed by offering me some kind of tangible reward for doing it, than by berating me for not doing it.

    So something like a start chart might well work, with the child getting a star for each day they manage to stay clean (though, it's then important to make the child feel like they're not being punished on days when they don't), then at the end of the week they get a reward based on how many stars they have - I would think it would work best if you have several things that the child can get stars for - so that even on bad days there's likely to be something positive to give a star for.

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