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Father of ASD son

Tango459

Greetings

I have 3 children,my oldest son was diagnosed with DCD, my youngest son has been diagnosed with ASD and my daughter is undergoing assesment for ASD.

Since being involved in the long process of obtaining a diagnosis of my children, and gaining a comprehensive understanding of the spectrum  I have come to the conclusion that it is firmly me that has passed the gene (for want of a different term) onto my children 

My childhood was extremely difficult and I seem to have developed coping mecahanisms over the years.  However as expected I have been unable to hide from my wife, who firmly beleives I am on the spectrum.

My quandry is that at aged 46 is there any benefit seeking a diagnosis.  I feel I would like some kind of diagnosis rather than the continuous feeling that I was always just weired and odd (and still am)

Ive never really spoke with anyone about it (other than with my one in a million wife)

Many thanks

 

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  • Hi Tango

    I have been diagnosed as Autistic for just over three months.

    I feel it is very worth while seeking a diagnosis.  Like you, I was very apprehensive.  Remember it does not change who you are whatever the diagnosis is.  But it goes a very long way to explaining the way you are and if it is positive why you are the way you are.

    Have you done the AQ test?  Although not a diagnosis, it is a very good first stage, and you can do it online and get your score.  That will then give a starting point.   You may be happy to self diagnose, but an official diagnosis can be very valuable should you wish to seek support.

     I used to think I didn't need a diagnosis but in my case there were things in the background ready to surface which just needed a catalyst.  And when that catalyst came inA the form of TUPE and change of job roles, I suffered a very bad meltdown.  Since my diagnosis, I have got some support at work through Access to Work, and that has helped me get adjustments which they were not prepared to do before my diagnosis.

    You may find it difficult to get a diagnosis on the NHS, especially if you doctor and health authority are like mine.  And there can be a very long waiting list.   There is the private route and in my case it was money well spent.

    And by the way, I'm 62.

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  • Hi Tango

    I have been diagnosed as Autistic for just over three months.

    I feel it is very worth while seeking a diagnosis.  Like you, I was very apprehensive.  Remember it does not change who you are whatever the diagnosis is.  But it goes a very long way to explaining the way you are and if it is positive why you are the way you are.

    Have you done the AQ test?  Although not a diagnosis, it is a very good first stage, and you can do it online and get your score.  That will then give a starting point.   You may be happy to self diagnose, but an official diagnosis can be very valuable should you wish to seek support.

     I used to think I didn't need a diagnosis but in my case there were things in the background ready to surface which just needed a catalyst.  And when that catalyst came inA the form of TUPE and change of job roles, I suffered a very bad meltdown.  Since my diagnosis, I have got some support at work through Access to Work, and that has helped me get adjustments which they were not prepared to do before my diagnosis.

    You may find it difficult to get a diagnosis on the NHS, especially if you doctor and health authority are like mine.  And there can be a very long waiting list.   There is the private route and in my case it was money well spent.

    And by the way, I'm 62.

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