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son hides food in plastic bags in his room

dementedmum

Hi I am the mum of two kids who have Aspergers.

My son has just turned 15 but we have had this same problem on and off for years. He hardly eats any food and he puts it in plastic sandwich bags and hides it in his room drawers. Obviously this is found when it starts to smell. He has no reason why he does it - doesnt know he says. I tell him every time it happens that if he was to put it straight in the bin I would be none the wiser but I feel he wants to be caught. 

I have just been at the doctors with him this morning to try get some help again - the docs answer is to tell him to stop as it is ridiculous! No referal to a nutritionist that I was looking for as all he eats is sugary drinks and snacks and he is falling asleep all the time. School work is suffering and he has failed all his prelims and he has become more aggresive in the past few months. He has said he was thinking about killing himself a few months ago - again told doctor this but he says it is just words!

I am worried what he is doing to his body inside and I am worried this is a cry for help - which I have tried to ask the docs for help and we are turned away again.

I have no idea how to get through to him and what I can do to help him as he will not listen to me at all.

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  • Hi Ferret

    Thank you very much for your reply.

    Today after I wrote this post I called the doctors to put in a complaint and we have found a new doctor. The doctor I have seen myself once before and he does not have the best bedside manner - wrong profession I think!!

    I have also been to the school and spoke with a very understanding support teacher who finally agrees with me that he needs support at school. He struggles to retain information and remember things (again something the doctor dismissed as being rubbish) so no wonder he is struggling with exams. The teacher will see him tomorrow first thing to look at a "safe plan" first of all since he has said he was thinking of killing himself. They will give him numbers to call if he needs to talk. They are going to speak to all his teachers to see what support they think he could benifit from. I have said that I dont think school is working for him and we are looking into him going to college after the summer instead of school on a course designed to help confidence and show life skills and some work experieence. Kids on the spectrum and others that cant do school can go here. Its an option at least.

    Just happy that somebody is finally listening to me. I just want my son to be happy and do the best in his life thay he can. 

    I have spoke to my son and said that what happened at the doctors should not have happened as his life is important and how he is feeling is important and for the doctor to shoo shoo us away was wrong. God help he thinks what he is feeling/ thinking is nonsence as a doctor says so!!!

    You say he may be misdiagnosed and I have felt this too for a while. I have a daughter too that is Aspergers and she is typical. Maybe when we get in to a new doctors I will ask to be rediagnosed.

    Thanks again and I will keep you posted how he is doing (my first post today but doubt it will be my last!!!)

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  • Hi Ferret

    Thank you very much for your reply.

    Today after I wrote this post I called the doctors to put in a complaint and we have found a new doctor. The doctor I have seen myself once before and he does not have the best bedside manner - wrong profession I think!!

    I have also been to the school and spoke with a very understanding support teacher who finally agrees with me that he needs support at school. He struggles to retain information and remember things (again something the doctor dismissed as being rubbish) so no wonder he is struggling with exams. The teacher will see him tomorrow first thing to look at a "safe plan" first of all since he has said he was thinking of killing himself. They will give him numbers to call if he needs to talk. They are going to speak to all his teachers to see what support they think he could benifit from. I have said that I dont think school is working for him and we are looking into him going to college after the summer instead of school on a course designed to help confidence and show life skills and some work experieence. Kids on the spectrum and others that cant do school can go here. Its an option at least.

    Just happy that somebody is finally listening to me. I just want my son to be happy and do the best in his life thay he can. 

    I have spoke to my son and said that what happened at the doctors should not have happened as his life is important and how he is feeling is important and for the doctor to shoo shoo us away was wrong. God help he thinks what he is feeling/ thinking is nonsence as a doctor says so!!!

    You say he may be misdiagnosed and I have felt this too for a while. I have a daughter too that is Aspergers and she is typical. Maybe when we get in to a new doctors I will ask to be rediagnosed.

    Thanks again and I will keep you posted how he is doing (my first post today but doubt it will be my last!!!)

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