4 year old being assessed for autism

Hi everyoneI've just signed up to this page for a bit of support / advisemy son is 4years old a few weeks ago I was called into his nursery about quite a few concerns eg behaviour social skills ect they then got someone from IDS (integrated disability services)  to assess my son in the setting, she said watching my son she'd like for him to be assessed for autism or asperges,  I've also thought there was something different as I have 2 other children,  not to compare, he can be very aggressive, and have random outburst if he isn't happy about a specific thing, he is not good with making friends and would much prefer to be alone,  he always seems to have a angry facial expression too even when I smile at him, he doesn't like to be approached without warning this can cause a huge scene if someone touches him,  when he's sad he will go and sit alone and will not want any cuddles from me which makes me feel quite sad, I've Googled everything and sometimes I'll think, yes he's got it and then other times I think,  no it can't be,  it's been on my mind since they first mentioned it and now the waiting game is horrible, I don't know what to expect or when to expect it any advice would be greatly appreciated I know there's a lot of people in the same position but sometimes I feel I'm the only one going through,  many thanks 

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  • Former Member
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    Welcome to the forum :-)

    It isn't the end of the world, though, if he is autistic.

    A lot of your description reminded me of my own childhood - I was never in the in-crowd, I always looked miserable and was no good at responding to people smiling at me. I was good academically and, in hindsight, must have been in schools with the right amount of discipline and fairness to suit me. My parents (mother particularly) found the right way to bring me up (the standard best parenting practices of positive reinforcement suits most kids but autistic kids especially) so I went through most of my life blissfully unaware of my differences.This was all before there was any recognition of this issue in schools.

    It all came undone in a recent job where I came up against people who could not cope with people like me so it all came undone. I got diagnosed at 56 and now, three years later, I am back in a good job that suits me and have time to help and appreciate the grandson that has now come along. Life can be good even with autism!

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  • Former Member
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    Welcome to the forum :-)

    It isn't the end of the world, though, if he is autistic.

    A lot of your description reminded me of my own childhood - I was never in the in-crowd, I always looked miserable and was no good at responding to people smiling at me. I was good academically and, in hindsight, must have been in schools with the right amount of discipline and fairness to suit me. My parents (mother particularly) found the right way to bring me up (the standard best parenting practices of positive reinforcement suits most kids but autistic kids especially) so I went through most of my life blissfully unaware of my differences.This was all before there was any recognition of this issue in schools.

    It all came undone in a recent job where I came up against people who could not cope with people like me so it all came undone. I got diagnosed at 56 and now, three years later, I am back in a good job that suits me and have time to help and appreciate the grandson that has now come along. Life can be good even with autism!

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