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newly diagnosed son

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Hello there, we are new to this forum and we are looking for help and support that anyone can give please.

Our 11 year old son has just been diagnosed with a-typical autism.He also has a speech and language problem, dyslexia (which we have known about for a couple of years) and a severe anxiety problem.

He has had a severe melt down at school as he is struggling with the pressures of the impending SATS tests this year and feels inadequate against his peers. He does have CAMHS involvement, SENCO support, and we are liasing with an educational psychologist, but we are stunned at this new autism diagnosis and struggling to come to terms with both that, and our sons low self esteem, awful anxiety issues and very low state of mind, it really is heartbreaking and we are struggling to know how to support him best. He has constant outbursts and meltdowns, can be rather aggressive at times, followed by tears upon tears and then becomes withdrawn and negative.

We are completely exhausted and concerned about the future and how we are going to get through this. Any help and advice would be so gratefully recieved!

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  • Ah, your reply made both me and my husband cry! It just means so much to us that some-one understands, and cares enough to give us that support. It really does feel like a very dark time for us, and it does help that someone else has been there, and is coming out the other end.

    You sound strong and happy, and i am so pleased to hear you have that good relationship with your son. You are right in saying about avoiding those confrontations...we are the same and dread the next meltdown. I think we need to work on those withdrawals of priveliges too, rather than trying to argue with him, and we need to try and explain to him what we expect from him. We do praise the good behaviour, but the meltdowns are exhausting! I think you are right, we need to discipline lovingly, and deal with the consequences of that when they arise.

    Thank you once again. It does make a difference. Sending our best wishes to you

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  • Ah, your reply made both me and my husband cry! It just means so much to us that some-one understands, and cares enough to give us that support. It really does feel like a very dark time for us, and it does help that someone else has been there, and is coming out the other end.

    You sound strong and happy, and i am so pleased to hear you have that good relationship with your son. You are right in saying about avoiding those confrontations...we are the same and dread the next meltdown. I think we need to work on those withdrawals of priveliges too, rather than trying to argue with him, and we need to try and explain to him what we expect from him. We do praise the good behaviour, but the meltdowns are exhausting! I think you are right, we need to discipline lovingly, and deal with the consequences of that when they arise.

    Thank you once again. It does make a difference. Sending our best wishes to you

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