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Unable to cope with going back on Job seekers.

Danfail

I've been in work for 4-5 years, recently switched Jobs to be with partner who has a child, spend 19 weeks working for a company that lost a work contract, as I hadn't got my full time work contract and transfer from agency I lost my job.

It's hit me really hard, and I have a messed up sleep pattern I'm struggling to fix as I've spent most of those 16 weeks on nights, I went to the doctor today to asked to be signed off as unfit for work so I could apply for ESA as I have an out right fear of the job center, I told him I have a past of bad mental health with depression and anxiety, and that I've fallen down, and I have aspergers, he blatently told me no that he don't think that's best for me, and said you need to see the help group for stressed people and get on job seekers... I'm practically ready to give up, I wish I could end it, I can't cope with Job seekers, I tried to tell him the pressure gets to me and it's easier for me to work back towards a job on ESA with support, and he just went silent without even adressing any of my issues, so I walked out... 

I just don't know what to do I can see me in major trouble as I have bills to pay.. I just don't know how they expect me to get a job when I'm running at 100 miles an hour in anxiety and panic attack mode, I need a break..

  • Hi Danfail!

    Sorry to hear you're going through this really tough time!!!

    It sounds like the doctor did not understand the severity. 

    I am currently having a similar problem regarding getting support for my mental health, so I've decided not to wait for them to catch up and take me seriously and to spend that energy on getting myself better instead by myself.

    If you're not happy with doctors response YOU ARE entitled to ask for a 2nd opinion and to see a different doctor.

    Before xmas when I was in quite a bad place-agoraphobia, anxiety and depression, I was worried I wasn't going to be listened to and luckily my mum was off work that day and came with me. More for courage I think but I felt that it made the doctor sit up and listen a bit more.

    Maybe you could ask someone you trust to come with you to the docs??

    Failing that I went with my sister for one of her jobseekers appointments as I wanted to see if they could give her ajy additional support as she has aspergers, I sat there with her and made notes and wowee were they more responsive!! Bringing flyers over, making phone calls the whole shebang!!

    Please don't give up Danfail!! Keep fighting and pushing for what you need. Someone will listen and someone will help, maybe just not that particular doctor. 

    Best wishes, 

    Keep me posted!

    Carpe x (p.s. i switched meds, started listening to calming music/hypnosis on youtube before bed and trying to go out walking more often to help with my anxiety...not every day is great, but it's a working progress. Fight the anxiety!!!)

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