Hi there I am new to this site, so just to start I have 2 daughters and my eldest who is 4 is currently waiting to be assessed by the paediatrician. I have thought that she may be on spectrum for the past year and half but kept going hot and cold with the idea, and I am still not sure! She would be highly functioning if she is on the spectrum. She has recently started school and I've been worried anyway but now even more so. My health visitor said not to mention to the school any concerns to see if they picked up on anything but today less than two weeks into starting school there was an incident where she had what I call a meltdown and she lashed out at another child. Apparently the child just came over to the area where she was playing and she lashed out, but I also know my child is very particular and would lash out as she in her head has a plan on how things should be, so then this child maybe coming into her space was too much. I'm not trying to make excuses as she should not have lashed out at the child. My question is do you think I should have a word with the teacher and fill her in. I am so worried at the moment and I'm just so concerned she is misunderstood. A few opinions would be welcomed. And also your thoughts and experiences would be welcomed. As I said we are waiting for an appointment but that could be after Christmas, and I am just concerned they are judging her on maybe something she is unable to control. We at home know roughly how to deal with certain situations that arise.
