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Chrissy28

Hello,

Just joined this forum to get some advice. I'm 28 and not been to doctors about aspergers. I have been there on and off with depression and anxiety though.

Ever since I was young and started school I never felt like I fitted in. I would stand to the side and watch other kids run around at play time in primary and it would take me ages to start to speak with people. Id had a hard time being bullied in high school because of this. I'm still like this now.

I also seem to have other traits such as hating being in crowds, finding it hard to make eye contact. Getting flustered when something unexpected comes up that I have to do that day. My partner likes to go places spontaneously but I like to research places before we go. Look up the route there etc.

Would it be worth going to thedoctors to see if I have aspergers? 

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  • Tony Attwood recommends CBT, but says it needs to be done with someone who understands Aspergers. I assume this is because CBT is normally used to "cure" people, but with Aspergers there is no cure, so you need to learn to adapt.

    10 years ago, before I knew anything about Aspergers, I had what I thought was my mid life crisis, and saw various counsellors, including some who did CBT. I listened to all the messages about positive thinking and going outside my comfort zone, and ended up in the biggest mess I've ever been in, that I still haven't got out of. So from my experience, I'd say that CBT, or any counselling, with someone who doesn't understand Aspergers, is potentially harmful, if you think you're on the spectrum.

    Just my personal view, as it seems there's little consistency in the experience everyone has with assessment and treatments, and I won't even be sure I'm anywhere on the spectrum until I get my results on Wednesday.

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  • Tony Attwood recommends CBT, but says it needs to be done with someone who understands Aspergers. I assume this is because CBT is normally used to "cure" people, but with Aspergers there is no cure, so you need to learn to adapt.

    10 years ago, before I knew anything about Aspergers, I had what I thought was my mid life crisis, and saw various counsellors, including some who did CBT. I listened to all the messages about positive thinking and going outside my comfort zone, and ended up in the biggest mess I've ever been in, that I still haven't got out of. So from my experience, I'd say that CBT, or any counselling, with someone who doesn't understand Aspergers, is potentially harmful, if you think you're on the spectrum.

    Just my personal view, as it seems there's little consistency in the experience everyone has with assessment and treatments, and I won't even be sure I'm anywhere on the spectrum until I get my results on Wednesday.

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