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So.....received my Aspergers diagnosis today

Felix1974

Hi All,

Further to my posts introducing myself last week, I received a diagnosis for Aspergers today. 

Can't say that this is the biggest surprise in the world . 

In a way I'm relieved. I know now that I'm not just odd and I can start to research the condition further and build on the coping strategies that I have used for decades .

This should help me with all areas of my life , family , work , hopefully social .

Not sure what else to say right now, just processing the day's events.

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  • Felix1974 said:

    Part of my problem, I've found, is that certain emails and meetings can be quite damaging to my thought process for long periods afterwards. Where a neuro typical person might accept or reject and move on, I find I can't and internalise it for days, weeks, months, years....

    Felix I totally understand this as I do exactly the same thing; it's almost refreshing to know that someone else does the same thing as me.

    There are so many things in work and in life that, as you say, NTs would accept/reject and then move from. But for me these things linger and stay with me for what can be a very very long time afterwards (I am still torturing myself over a specific and highly damaging incident from work that took place back in August 2015...I just cannot seem to get my head around it and move on). I internalise these situations/events and try to make sense of them; I deconstruct every single element, I replay every single conversation or word spoken, I assess every single variable to try and make sense of it in my mind. This can take as you mention days, weeks, months, even years...it is so incredibly destructive and sheer exhausting!

    Do you have meltdowns? Is this something you experience? I know from my experience I certainly do and they're usually caused by my work. I can normally feel a meltdown coming on and can take steps to try circumvent it, however sometimes (case and point this week with my new project) something comes out of left field and knocks me sideways into a full scale meltdown. They're awful, it's like my brain is a computer that has frozen and can't work properly; I can't process anything, I can barely speak and need to take myself off to reset.

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  • Felix1974 said:

    Part of my problem, I've found, is that certain emails and meetings can be quite damaging to my thought process for long periods afterwards. Where a neuro typical person might accept or reject and move on, I find I can't and internalise it for days, weeks, months, years....

    Felix I totally understand this as I do exactly the same thing; it's almost refreshing to know that someone else does the same thing as me.

    There are so many things in work and in life that, as you say, NTs would accept/reject and then move from. But for me these things linger and stay with me for what can be a very very long time afterwards (I am still torturing myself over a specific and highly damaging incident from work that took place back in August 2015...I just cannot seem to get my head around it and move on). I internalise these situations/events and try to make sense of them; I deconstruct every single element, I replay every single conversation or word spoken, I assess every single variable to try and make sense of it in my mind. This can take as you mention days, weeks, months, even years...it is so incredibly destructive and sheer exhausting!

    Do you have meltdowns? Is this something you experience? I know from my experience I certainly do and they're usually caused by my work. I can normally feel a meltdown coming on and can take steps to try circumvent it, however sometimes (case and point this week with my new project) something comes out of left field and knocks me sideways into a full scale meltdown. They're awful, it's like my brain is a computer that has frozen and can't work properly; I can't process anything, I can barely speak and need to take myself off to reset.

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