So.....received my Aspergers diagnosis today

Hi All,

Further to my posts introducing myself last week, I received a diagnosis for Aspergers today. 

Can't say that this is the biggest surprise in the world . 

In a way I'm relieved. I know now that I'm not just odd and I can start to research the condition further and build on the coping strategies that I have used for decades .

This should help me with all areas of my life , family , work , hopefully social .

Not sure what else to say right now, just processing the day's events.

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  • My firm is as it is sadly. They are one of the oldest firms in London and they act like it a lot of the time quite frankly. 

    It's great that your organisation (or at least some of the individuals that matter) has taken a more enlightened view.

    This morning has been quite brutal actually, we are being asked to do the impossible on a couple of projects and I'm just counting the hours until I am able to leave the building, although I need to try and focus a little before then.

    Part of my problem, I've found, is that certain emails and meetings can be quite damaging to my thought process for long periods afterwards. Where a neuro typical person might accept or reject and move on, I find I can't and internalise it for days, months , years afterwards even when the issues they raise, have been resolved.

    I tried to address this by creating a routine where I tell myself not to care but the upshot of that was that people started to comment that I didn't give a sh*t about things. Too far the other way.

    I have had no luck in striking a balance, i just don't understand whether some emails are personal attacks or not and I find this even harder in Board meetings where the discussion is face to face.

    The COO, who despite his less than progressive views on mental health, is a nice guy, actually asked me this morning if I was alright. He said you seem to be missing your list of things to do this morning and look a little rattled('d been dragged into an impromptu meeting (I wouldn't usually go anywhere without it otherwise). He's aware I've been back and forth to the hospital but assume they all think it relates to a physical ailment.

    I so very nearly unburdened myself, such has been the sh*tstorm today but managed to restrain myself, which I still think is the right course of action.

    That's funny (in the nicest possible way) about the Rainman comment you received. Just staggering that this film (now nearly 30 years old) is still most people's exposure to autism. Needs to change really.

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  • My firm is as it is sadly. They are one of the oldest firms in London and they act like it a lot of the time quite frankly. 

    It's great that your organisation (or at least some of the individuals that matter) has taken a more enlightened view.

    This morning has been quite brutal actually, we are being asked to do the impossible on a couple of projects and I'm just counting the hours until I am able to leave the building, although I need to try and focus a little before then.

    Part of my problem, I've found, is that certain emails and meetings can be quite damaging to my thought process for long periods afterwards. Where a neuro typical person might accept or reject and move on, I find I can't and internalise it for days, months , years afterwards even when the issues they raise, have been resolved.

    I tried to address this by creating a routine where I tell myself not to care but the upshot of that was that people started to comment that I didn't give a sh*t about things. Too far the other way.

    I have had no luck in striking a balance, i just don't understand whether some emails are personal attacks or not and I find this even harder in Board meetings where the discussion is face to face.

    The COO, who despite his less than progressive views on mental health, is a nice guy, actually asked me this morning if I was alright. He said you seem to be missing your list of things to do this morning and look a little rattled('d been dragged into an impromptu meeting (I wouldn't usually go anywhere without it otherwise). He's aware I've been back and forth to the hospital but assume they all think it relates to a physical ailment.

    I so very nearly unburdened myself, such has been the sh*tstorm today but managed to restrain myself, which I still think is the right course of action.

    That's funny (in the nicest possible way) about the Rainman comment you received. Just staggering that this film (now nearly 30 years old) is still most people's exposure to autism. Needs to change really.

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