So.....received my Aspergers diagnosis today

What a shame you can't get time off as I think it would really help you. I know I would have certainly benefited from some time out just to process things and get my head around my new diagnosis.

And it's even more of a shame that your firm has that outdated view on mental illness, it's truly unacceptable in this day and age. You would never tell someone suffering with cancer to just "pull themselves together" so it really should be no different for a mental illness; just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there and affecting people. Luckily my employer is very inclusive and supportive of all disabilities, including mental health and the support I have from them is second to none. I have still had a few comments from some colleagues that are maybe not where they should be..."well you don't act like Rain Man"....yeah go figure you f**king genius.

However I am glad your wife is supportive of you and is helping you, that's a tremendous relief. Has she done any reading on your condition? That may help her as I gave my husband some links to info on HFA for him to read and understand (I find it very difficult to articulate myself verbally when I am stressed/upset etc, so the internet helped put words to what I wanted to tell him). But I know what you mean as there is only so much help they can give you if they don't have the problem themselves. My husband is very supportive but there's a limit to his support purely because he doesn't have what I have. He is also a very practical man.... wife + crying = hug / wife + meltdown = take her for a walk to reset and so on. However this doesn't always work for me because I don't always need a practical answer to my problems as A) there isn't one, or B) I need to be left alone for a while. He doesn't get this sometimes and he gets frustrated as he can't help me.

What a shame you can't get time off as I think it would really help you. I know I would have certainly benefited from some time out just to process things and get my head around my new diagnosis.

And it's even more of a shame that your firm has that outdated view on mental illness, it's truly unacceptable in this day and age. You would never tell someone suffering with cancer to just "pull themselves together" so it really should be no different for a mental illness; just because you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there and affecting people. Luckily my employer is very inclusive and supportive of all disabilities, including mental health and the support I have from them is second to none. I have still had a few comments from some colleagues that are maybe not where they should be..."well you don't act like Rain Man"....yeah go figure you f**king genius.

However I am glad your wife is supportive of you and is helping you, that's a tremendous relief. Has she done any reading on your condition? That may help her as I gave my husband some links to info on HFA for him to read and understand (I find it very difficult to articulate myself verbally when I am stressed/upset etc, so the internet helped put words to what I wanted to tell him). But I know what you mean as there is only so much help they can give you if they don't have the problem themselves. My husband is very supportive but there's a limit to his support purely because he doesn't have what I have. He is also a very practical man.... wife + crying = hug / wife + meltdown = take her for a walk to reset and so on. However this doesn't always work for me because I don't always need a practical answer to my problems as A) there isn't one, or B) I need to be left alone for a while. He doesn't get this sometimes and he gets frustrated as he can't help me.