My mum might have cancer - sick with fear

I am really worried that my mum might have cancer - this has not been confirmed, she will have a biopsy next week, but it is a strong possibily.  It was suggested that she might have lung cancer - she has never smoked. Her GP said he did not think lung cancer was likely, but a nurse at the hospital thought it was possible after she had a scan. She has a persistant cough, weight loss, fatigue, hoarse voice, breathlessness. I don't want to lose my mum. I don't know what to think or do. I feel fine one moment, as though everything is normal, and then I cry. I only found out that she might have cancer today, from my dad. My mum is 60 years old - too young to die. Of course we don't know for certain that it is cancer - nothing has been conclusively diagnosed yet. I am hoping it is something else: pneumonia, COPD, anything but cancer. I am hoping that is treatable. If it is cancer, there is a high chance she will die because she went to the doctor so late. She should have gone in the Autumn when her cough did not get better.

I don't want her to die. I don't want my mum to die. I am so scared. I have a splitting headache from the stress, and feel awful.  I just would like some reassurance really.

  • Hello Hope,

    Sorry to hear about your worries about your mum. It sounds like your thoughts are racing. It's understandable that you are feeling ok one moment, then crying the next moment, because it is new information and you are waiting for some answers. There is uncertainty at the moment. Try your best not to think about all the possible outcomes, because that feeds your worry. Try to remind yourself that at the moment you do not know what the biopsy will show, but what you know for certain is that your mum is with you right now.

    Do you have a way of showing your mum that you love her (like giving her a hug, or something else)?

    Do you have things that help you to deal with stress and anxiety and help you to feel calm?

    Posting your message here is a good way of expressing your emotions, if you are finding it difficult.