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Assessment Help! - Forms/sections to be filled out by parents/carer?

PurplePenny

So I have finally been contacted for the assessment for possible asd/autism. I have my forms, 2 of them. One to be filled out by me and the other by a carer/parent. I have decided to give 1 to my mother, as she is the one who knew me best as a child. 

However, I am a bit concerned... I am worried that her answers to the questions will be influenced by my father. He is against the idea of me having autism and thinks it is a silly notion - as back in the day autism was unheard of. I was just a 'shy' child - he would say.

I am a bit worried he might influence her answers on the questionaire which might make diagnosis harder (should I have it). 

I love them both, but they have different mind sets and feel anxious about the idea of not being diagnosed because of the answers (or lack) that she might give. 

Can anyone relate to this? Can anyone share any ideas, advice or help I could use for this? Am I overthinking this? What do you all think?

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  • Your fears may be groundless. It might even be that in attempting to describe your behaviour in disparaging or superficial terms, your Dad actually confirms it. He would have to know a lot about AS to be able to manipulate answers against you, but he doesn't so the danger is minimal. It could even be that your Mum, impressed by you as to the importance of answering truthfuly, does so.

    However, parental questionnaires are not vital to the process, merey helpfuly informative. You could, if you wish, ignore it completely, it shouldn't be any detriment to you at all. Many people get diagnosed whose parents are long passed away/unavailable/unwanted (for reasons such as yours - perfectly valid) and cannot contribute. Weigh this against the anguish you are having over it and my recommendation would be if it's shaking you so badly, don't ask them. They should give it back to you to send in anyway, so you might have the opportunity to review it yourself, but I certainly wouldn't bother trying that one, it could twist your head right up and cause more of a rift.

    Finally, if your Dad thinks you're not AS, where does he get his in-depth knowledge of the condition from? Chances are he neither understands children nor the true nature of AS. That's not good parenting.

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  • Your fears may be groundless. It might even be that in attempting to describe your behaviour in disparaging or superficial terms, your Dad actually confirms it. He would have to know a lot about AS to be able to manipulate answers against you, but he doesn't so the danger is minimal. It could even be that your Mum, impressed by you as to the importance of answering truthfuly, does so.

    However, parental questionnaires are not vital to the process, merey helpfuly informative. You could, if you wish, ignore it completely, it shouldn't be any detriment to you at all. Many people get diagnosed whose parents are long passed away/unavailable/unwanted (for reasons such as yours - perfectly valid) and cannot contribute. Weigh this against the anguish you are having over it and my recommendation would be if it's shaking you so badly, don't ask them. They should give it back to you to send in anyway, so you might have the opportunity to review it yourself, but I certainly wouldn't bother trying that one, it could twist your head right up and cause more of a rift.

    Finally, if your Dad thinks you're not AS, where does he get his in-depth knowledge of the condition from? Chances are he neither understands children nor the true nature of AS. That's not good parenting.

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