Need some help and guidance with NOT being diagnosed with Autism.

4390evans said:

If you still haven't seen what type of help I was asking for then I am wasting my time here, seen as I have repeated myself a few times! 

I don't really care who or what NT is.

God help if someone actually came on here and was at their wits end and desperatly needed help or a sympathetic ear! All apart from one person has in some way insulted or responded condescendingly towards me or assumed what I think! 

From what it looks like on this thread it seems a bad thing not to have Autism and that it is wished on people! I guarantee non of your parents would of wished for you to have Autism, nor you for your childeren yet when I write replies you are so quick to look into another meaning of what I write and say oooh thats a sign of Aspergers or Autism instead of just focusing on what the original post was about. 

Im very suprised Ive had this bother to be honest, and dont think I will be asking or taking part in anything else on this so called charitable site.

We don't mean to be rude but one part of autism is that we are not very diplomatic and not good at understanding other people. That is why we are here, we are generally trying to get help with the problems that autism gives us. Being sympathetic is also something we struggle with as we are fairly hopeless at judging people's emotions. This forum is definitely not teaandsympathy.com!

Your question runs against a frequent problem of parents and people with autism. It is generally very very difficult to get a diagnosis. People have to jump through all sorts of hoops and delays and trauma before they get to a diagnosis.

Most people here know that they, or a child, have autism and we generally have no choice but to accept this and make the most of it. It is not the end of the world or a terrible thing for us. It just has to be part of our lives.

We can't tell if your child has autism and with no disrespect I doubt if you can either. Autism is very difficult to diagnose and one autistic person does not resemble another one. If you know someone with autism then another person with autism may be completely different. The best people to work this out are the experts. Experts do, however, get fixed ideas sometimes and diagnosis of conditions like autism can sometimes be wrong. I think you should challenge them (politely) and ask them for details about why they think it is autism and how your child might have come to have the condition. Ask them what difference it will make to treatment. 

There are procedures for asking for second opinions in the NHS. You aren't stuck with this diagnosis and only time will tell whether the diagnosis is right. If autism is the right diagnosis then this will mean extra help from the right people. If it is the wrong diagnosis then you might find that the same people are involved in trying to help him. 

4390evans said:

If you still haven't seen what type of help I was asking for then I am wasting my time here, seen as I have repeated myself a few times! 

I don't really care who or what NT is.

God help if someone actually came on here and was at their wits end and desperatly needed help or a sympathetic ear! All apart from one person has in some way insulted or responded condescendingly towards me or assumed what I think! 

From what it looks like on this thread it seems a bad thing not to have Autism and that it is wished on people! I guarantee non of your parents would of wished for you to have Autism, nor you for your childeren yet when I write replies you are so quick to look into another meaning of what I write and say oooh thats a sign of Aspergers or Autism instead of just focusing on what the original post was about. 

Im very suprised Ive had this bother to be honest, and dont think I will be asking or taking part in anything else on this so called charitable site.

We don't mean to be rude but one part of autism is that we are not very diplomatic and not good at understanding other people. That is why we are here, we are generally trying to get help with the problems that autism gives us. Being sympathetic is also something we struggle with as we are fairly hopeless at judging people's emotions. This forum is definitely not teaandsympathy.com!

Your question runs against a frequent problem of parents and people with autism. It is generally very very difficult to get a diagnosis. People have to jump through all sorts of hoops and delays and trauma before they get to a diagnosis.

Most people here know that they, or a child, have autism and we generally have no choice but to accept this and make the most of it. It is not the end of the world or a terrible thing for us. It just has to be part of our lives.

We can't tell if your child has autism and with no disrespect I doubt if you can either. Autism is very difficult to diagnose and one autistic person does not resemble another one. If you know someone with autism then another person with autism may be completely different. The best people to work this out are the experts. Experts do, however, get fixed ideas sometimes and diagnosis of conditions like autism can sometimes be wrong. I think you should challenge them (politely) and ask them for details about why they think it is autism and how your child might have come to have the condition. Ask them what difference it will make to treatment. 

There are procedures for asking for second opinions in the NHS. You aren't stuck with this diagnosis and only time will tell whether the diagnosis is right. If autism is the right diagnosis then this will mean extra help from the right people. If it is the wrong diagnosis then you might find that the same people are involved in trying to help him.