Need some help and guidance with NOT being diagnosed with Autism.

classic codger said:

Your insistence that you are right and everyone else is wrong is also a typical AS behaviour. If I may pick you up on one small point, there is no such thing as 'opposite' ends of the spectrum, there is a range of traits and effects that apply to anyone on the spectrum. 

*I don't think that everyone is wrong, I think that people are jumping to concusions and to desperate to label my child without first listening to her parents, daycare and other people who come into contact with her daily.

Whats more worring about the spectrum point is that he pediatrician who seen nora used"opposite ends of the spectrum" when talking to us, but we already knew this as my partner is at uni studying psychology and counselling and they also use this phrase when talking about Autism.

 I am baffled as to why you would come onto an Autism website just to tell us that in your unqualified opinion, qualifed people who are trying their best to help you, are wrong.

*I came on here as I thought there would of been people who would of been wrongly diagnosed or in the same possition where they themselves dont think their child has Autism and may of been able to help me.

There are many parents on here that have diagnosed children, there are parents who struggle desperately to get the right help for their undiagnosed children, but you are the first person I've seen on here who has come just to tell us that your child cannot possibly be AS, because you know better than anyone. You may be denying your child the very help that she needs. I agree with Pentadactyl, blaming the 'operation' is convenient, but totaly misleading.

*I know there are parents fighting to get their child diagnosed and that's because they think their child has Autism, and you support this as you think they know best  because they are the parent of that child, yet when I am saying I dont think my child has Autism you are saying leave it to the professionals, they know best? 

why you would be so afraid of an AS diagnosis. 

*I am not afraid of the diagnosis I am afraid of the miss diagnosis.

I have asked an NT to review this before I post it. I'm told that in their opinion, you aren't likely to take any of it on board and that you'll just have a 'paddy' over it. This is someone who has known me, and known me very well, for a number of years and STILL doesn't always understand me. They are puzzled as to how you think that casual, non-intimate contact with AS people could possibly give you any depth of insight into the condition.

*Presume much? Some of the information on this thread has been very helpful although nothing that would help educational wise for my daughter. People are complicated, not just those who are diagnosed with something. 

I am not easily offended and like to see that people speak what they think is truth and give their oppinion and tell me of past experiences etc, but there is a difference between being truthful and being rude!

classic codger said:

Your insistence that you are right and everyone else is wrong is also a typical AS behaviour. If I may pick you up on one small point, there is no such thing as 'opposite' ends of the spectrum, there is a range of traits and effects that apply to anyone on the spectrum. 

*I don't think that everyone is wrong, I think that people are jumping to concusions and to desperate to label my child without first listening to her parents, daycare and other people who come into contact with her daily.

Whats more worring about the spectrum point is that he pediatrician who seen nora used"opposite ends of the spectrum" when talking to us, but we already knew this as my partner is at uni studying psychology and counselling and they also use this phrase when talking about Autism.

 I am baffled as to why you would come onto an Autism website just to tell us that in your unqualified opinion, qualifed people who are trying their best to help you, are wrong.

*I came on here as I thought there would of been people who would of been wrongly diagnosed or in the same possition where they themselves dont think their child has Autism and may of been able to help me.

There are many parents on here that have diagnosed children, there are parents who struggle desperately to get the right help for their undiagnosed children, but you are the first person I've seen on here who has come just to tell us that your child cannot possibly be AS, because you know better than anyone. You may be denying your child the very help that she needs. I agree with Pentadactyl, blaming the 'operation' is convenient, but totaly misleading.

*I know there are parents fighting to get their child diagnosed and that's because they think their child has Autism, and you support this as you think they know best  because they are the parent of that child, yet when I am saying I dont think my child has Autism you are saying leave it to the professionals, they know best? 

why you would be so afraid of an AS diagnosis. 

*I am not afraid of the diagnosis I am afraid of the miss diagnosis.

I have asked an NT to review this before I post it. I'm told that in their opinion, you aren't likely to take any of it on board and that you'll just have a 'paddy' over it. This is someone who has known me, and known me very well, for a number of years and STILL doesn't always understand me. They are puzzled as to how you think that casual, non-intimate contact with AS people could possibly give you any depth of insight into the condition.

*Presume much? Some of the information on this thread has been very helpful although nothing that would help educational wise for my daughter. People are complicated, not just those who are diagnosed with something. 

I am not easily offended and like to see that people speak what they think is truth and give their oppinion and tell me of past experiences etc, but there is a difference between being truthful and being rude!