• Replies 13 replies
  • Subscribers 25 subscribers
  • Views 2336 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Definitely NOT autistic...

bukko

Hi,

my switched-on GP referred me for diagnosis about 5 years ago.

Finally last year, my local Asperger's centre told me I only got 4 out of 5 ticks so a positive diagnosis wasn't possible.

The tick that was missing was the "Evidence of childhood history" one. This is because as a child I hid the fact that I was different, I lied to my Mum who had enough to deal with in her abusive relationship. She thought I had a normal life, she had no idea that I was virtually unable to interact with other people at all, had no friends, kept myself to myself at school. And she was still unaware when I told her a few years ago.

As a result I have no diagnosis and I have no access to any of the magic treatments that I am sure are being hidden from me.

(Ok that may have been a joke)

So in the absence of any official support, what can I do to improve my situation?

I am told that I rank in the top 1% IQ wise but I really don't feel smart. I would love to be able to take advantage of what I have, rather than feel depressed that there is stuff I will never be able to do.

If you don't have an answer for me, please just say Hi :)

Parents
  • Former Member
    Former Member

    As others have said, parents are often not available or agreeable or competent to assist the process. In my case, both were dead by the time I went for diagnosis at age 56. you are entitled to a second opinion http://community.autism.org.uk/search/node/%22second%20opinion%22

    Also, an abusive father could actually indicate that he was struggling with being on the spectrum himself. Autistic people can become abusive and difficult as they are unable to use normal social means to achive their aims. (I had an abusive grandfather apparently)

    Actually from what they have told you they can't actually say that you aren't autistic, they can only say that they aren't sure. There is a saying that "absence of evidence is not evidence of absence". They don't have childhood evidence either way except possibly some anecdotal evidence from someone who isn't trained to identify the signs. 

Reply
  • Former Member
    Former Member

    As others have said, parents are often not available or agreeable or competent to assist the process. In my case, both were dead by the time I went for diagnosis at age 56. you are entitled to a second opinion http://community.autism.org.uk/search/node/%22second%20opinion%22

    Also, an abusive father could actually indicate that he was struggling with being on the spectrum himself. Autistic people can become abusive and difficult as they are unable to use normal social means to achive their aims. (I had an abusive grandfather apparently)

    Actually from what they have told you they can't actually say that you aren't autistic, they can only say that they aren't sure. There is a saying that "absence of evidence is not evidence of absence". They don't have childhood evidence either way except possibly some anecdotal evidence from someone who isn't trained to identify the signs. 

Children
No Data